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Avoid Le Boudoir Club, London
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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LB was my best club before the pandemic, but things are changing. I lost my single membership because of their system, I tried to sign up again they refused as they have too many singles! I emailed them back to ask for my old account, one of team replied by email said I was not a member before! Means I’m liar, also he does not like my photo. So are they selecting people based on appearance? |
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My understanding is that they’ve always selected based on appearance and body shape. I prefer clubs that welcome a wide range of people.
VA2 (formerly Vanilla Alternative) is great if its not too far. |
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By *ty31Man
over a year ago
NW London |
I think they have a quota system going, if one group is oversubscribed then it's a case if waiting/trying again. I know it can be frustrating.
Penthouse Playrooms (Dunstable) is probably the club most similar to Le Boudoir so that may be worth having a look at. |
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By *horty4Man
over a year ago
london |
"LB was my best club before the pandemic, but things are changing. I lost my single membership because of their system, I tried to sign up again they refused as they have too many singles! I emailed them back to ask for my old account, one of team replied by email said I was not a member before! Means I’m liar, also he does not like my photo. So are they selecting people based on appearance? "
They’ve always had a selection policy since day one, plenty of febrile debate on here about that. Their are many opinions on that but presumably you were OK with that previously? So it was ‘the best club’ now you’ve been refused entry its to be ‘avoided’. I guess people will make up their own minds about the story here. |
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"LB was my best club before the pandemic, but things are changing. I lost my single membership because of their system, I tried to sign up again they refused as they have too many singles! I emailed them back to ask for my old account, one of team replied by email said I was not a member before! Means I’m liar, also he does not like my photo. So are they selecting people based on appearance? "
I would not avoid it based only on your post, by any means. Personally I have only been once and it left a rather lukewarm impression on me. People did not speak with me much and it felt rather hostile and cold, not like the friendly atmosphere of my favourite fetish clubs that I am used to. Once I went to explore and went to the dungeons some of those very same people who have completely ignored me up to then formed a gaggle and followed me about. It looked and felt absurd.
I am grateful that at least the DM was very competent and accepting his offer of an impact session saved my evening!
Now I am really uncertain whether I will go again. I cannot invite any men I know as the massive discrepancy in pricing would make me embarrassed on Le Boudoir's behalf to even discuss. They were also extremely rude in their communication with me over the membership details when I asked some questions so overall I am really doubtful that I would go again unless with someone who already has a membership and loves the facilities (I have not idea how the new venue looks like).
Or else I might attend one of the fetish events they seem top be hosting in partnership - but first I need to find out what these fetish events are like. |
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By *horty4Man
over a year ago
london |
"I'd avoid any clubs where people are judged by how "pretty" they are or how thick their wallets are. It's much better being in an inclusive club. "
There’s an entry price, its choice whether to pay it or not. |
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"I'd avoid any clubs where people are judged by how "pretty" they are or how thick their wallets are. It's much better being in an inclusive club.
There’s an entry price, its choice whether to pay it or not. "
Sorry to disillusion you, but every single club has 'entry price'. Yet some of those prices I am happy to pay, others- no, thank you, I'll go elsewhere. |
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By *horty4Man
over a year ago
london |
"I'd avoid any clubs where people are judged by how "pretty" they are or how thick their wallets are. It's much better being in an inclusive club.
There’s an entry price, its choice whether to pay it or not.
Sorry to disillusion you, but every single club has 'entry price'. Yet some of those prices I am happy to pay, others- no, thank you, I'll go elsewhere. "
Erm….yes exactly. They are not judging you on how fat your wallet is. I happily pay because it’s by far the best club I’ve been too, for comparison I wouldn’t consider paying the new eureka is charging. Others will, a club experience is largely subjective so these debates are diverting but ultimately it’s like raw oysters. Some love them, some don’t. |
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By *horty4Man
over a year ago
london |
"I'd avoid any clubs where people are judged by how "pretty" they are or how thick their wallets are. It's much better being in an inclusive club.
There’s an entry price, its choice whether to pay it or not.
Sorry to disillusion you, but every single club has 'entry price'. Yet some of those prices I am happy to pay, others- no, thank you, I'll go elsewhere. "
Erm….yes exactly. They are not judging you on how fat your wallet is. I happily pay because it’s by far the best club I’ve been too, for comparison I wouldn’t consider paying the new eureka is charging. Others will, a club experience is largely subjective so these debates are diverting but ultimately it’s like raw oysters. Some love them, some don’t. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"LB was my best club before the pandemic, but things are changing. I lost my single membership because of their system, I tried to sign up again they refused as they have too many singles! I emailed them back to ask for my old account, one of team replied by email said I was not a member before! Means I’m liar, also he does not like my photo. So are they selecting people based on appearance? "
. Over the years there have been plenty of threads about people applying for membership at Le Boudoir and been turned down the majority felt it was to do with their appearance , body size and looks. I have applied twice a year apart and both times was rejected as the email said they were over subscribed with single guys.On both occasions I was disappointed but I accepted their decision and moved on.
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By *eisha17Couple
over a year ago
Hemel Hempstead |
We went there a few times per covid. The venue was brilliant and the people good looking. However I found it very cliquey and cold, the management a bit rude too. Don't think we can justify the costs anymore |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We went to the old club and had a fantastic time and the people were very friendly.
We cannot wait to visit the new club and we are sure it will be marvellous.
All clubs deserve credit and not to be criticised for no response. Maybe they are being over subscribed because of this recent virus.
Good luck to LB and all clubs that can survive these crazy times.
D & S x |
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By *horty4Man
over a year ago
london |
"We went there a few times per covid. The venue was brilliant and the people good looking. However I found it very cliquey and cold, the management a bit rude too. Don't think we can justify the costs anymore"
Ultimately these conversations are all a bit redundant. Ive been toAbFabs, found it cliquey and the staff were....odd. VA, great place medium cliquey! Hellfire, should be amazing but always almost empty. Found LB fine and you can monitor for clique-ness! People will naturally want to talk to people they know, ive not found it that way but others may have. It’s been sold out since its return so take that as an endorsement i guess. |
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By *ANDCOCouple
over a year ago
Berkshire |
"We went to the old club and had a fantastic time and the people were very friendly.
We cannot wait to visit the new club and we are sure it will be marvellous.
All clubs deserve credit and not to be criticised for no response. Maybe they are being over subscribed because of this recent virus.
Good luck to LB and all clubs that can survive these crazy times.
D & S x "
DITTO THIS!
Understand people get rejected and it has a selection process. But guess that’s how it is. We do love it there.
We have tickets for this Saturday but not seeing the usual flurry of attendees on here saying they are going so no idea if it’s going to be busy or not. Odd times in the UK with messaging etc on clubs. |
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Best club when a member, avoid at all costs when they won’t renew your membership, hmmmm.
So what if they allow membership based on looks or body size, it’s their club, their rules.
( I don’t see people complaining about there being loads of bbw events, based around body size ultimately ). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"LB was my best club before the pandemic, but things are changing. I lost my single membership because of their system, I tried to sign up again they refused as they have too many singles! I emailed them back to ask for my old account, one of team replied by email said I was not a member before! Means I’m liar, also he does not like my photo. So are they selecting people based on appearance? "
Sorry you feel like that. Sounds like you had some fantastic evenings previously. I know as old members we have had to reapply and I am sure unfortunately some previous members may not get new membership granted. It might be just that they have far too many male members at the moment. So might be worth trying in a few months with a different picture. I know a friend of ours who was not excepted and sent in a different picture and was accepted. We are going on the 30th and can’t wait. I have always found the club friendly and super fun. The new venue is incredible. |
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"We went to the old club and had a fantastic time and the people were very friendly.
We cannot wait to visit the new club and we are sure it will be marvellous.
All clubs deserve credit and not to be criticised for no response. Maybe they are being over subscribed because of this recent virus.
Good luck to LB and all clubs that can survive these crazy times.
D & S x "
Why does any business deserve not to be criticised for no response? |
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"LB was my best club before the pandemic, but things are changing. I lost my single membership because of their system, I tried to sign up again they refused as they have too many singles! I emailed them back to ask for my old account, one of team replied by email said I was not a member before! Means I’m liar, also he does not like my photo. So are they selecting people based on appearance? "
I applied before and was rejected , I can only assume it was because of my appearance , what ever happened to diversity!
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"I'd avoid any clubs where people are judged by how "pretty" they are or how thick their wallets are. It's much better being in an inclusive club. "
Agreed - its tantamount to saying sex should only be enjoyed by the gorgeous youngsters - and I know I can teach em a thing or 3! |
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By *intyGWoman
over a year ago
Bedford |
I won’t be going again. Very rude messages when I shared my bad experience there with them a few days after attending for the first time ever. It was followed up with a message exchange involving some pretty condescending and gaslighting points made by LB. yes I’d had a drink but I remember what happened and what I said.
I was assured that there are uniformed and plainclothes security present in one message. In the next, I was told directly that I can’t expect staff to be watching people all the time.
Nah. |
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Sorry you feel that way. I applied and got accepted. Not here to rub it in but nevertheless I cannot say anything bad about the club since its my choice to apply and attend.
They obviously had their reasons for rejecting you and as it is their club I guess its also their right.
My advice is to move on to other clubs which in fact are loads. Instead of trying to ruin their reputation, I would advice you put all your energy in finding other clubs to patronise.
You obviously have your own experience which is different from others like myself and it is not fair using your experience to discourage others from experiencing the club and judging on their own.
Happy swinging buddy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had planned on going in early September, but reading some comments about attitudes toward people have made me think it’s not the type of place I’d like to go. I hate judgemental people, amd it sounds like the management (and possibly guests) are like that.
So I’m now at a loss as to what to do Friday September 3rd as I’m in London taking part in a few races and want to have a pleasant evening with good people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the interest of balance I’ve been on a number of occasions of late and found the team to be really personable and club very social. Sorry about your personal experience. |
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By *adam07Man
over a year ago
london |
"They basically dont like non gym types 
Not true, i was there on Friday, there were a range of body sizes. Sorry if the facts get in the way of your speculation."
Whats your percentage cut at the club for being soo supportive??
Everyone here are saying there experiences and you keep butting it..
You said what you had to so ..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They basically dont like non gym types
Not true, i was there on Friday, there were a range of body sizes. Sorry if the facts get in the way of your speculation."
Hi.
Just read your post on the Le Boudoir thread amd I may have been a little hasty in taking other posters word as gospel as saying I won’t be going. But I’ve been swinging 15+ years and have seen this type of behaviour before.
So what are Fridays like? I know it’s impossible to forecast what it will be like, but is it a friendly club where you can chat or is it a bit clique with us single guys treated as a pariah
Wil |
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By *horty4Man
over a year ago
london |
"They basically dont like non gym types
Not true, i was there on Friday, there were a range of body sizes. Sorry if the facts get in the way of your speculation.
Whats your percentage cut at the club for being soo supportive??
Everyone here are saying there experiences and you keep butting it..
You said what you had to so ....."
Nada, nothing, zero.
‘Everyone’ well yes, everyone that doesn’t like it doesn’t like it. It’s sold out most weekends so i guess we’ll let the market decide. The initial poster has a story about why he was refused, great. That’s his story. How many threads on here are full of tales of misbehaving guys? Personally a club turning away custom because they want to ensure a good club experience should be encouraged. Still, looks like you’re another person who WOULD NEVER WANT TO GO TO THAT CLUB, thats fine.plenty of others will have you |
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By *horty4Man
over a year ago
london |
"They basically dont like non gym types
Not true, i was there on Friday, there were a range of body sizes. Sorry if the facts get in the way of your speculation.
Hi.
Just read your post on the Le Boudoir thread amd I may have been a little hasty in taking other posters word as gospel as saying I won’t be going. But I’ve been swinging 15+ years and have seen this type of behaviour before.
So what are Fridays like? I know it’s impossible to forecast what it will be like, but is it a friendly club where you can chat or is it a bit clique with us single guys treated as a pariah
Wil"
‘Friendly’ is difficult to quantify, in most clubs single guys are not limited in number and pester the couples and girls. The club does NOTHING about it so the couples and girls are understandably pissed off. At LB they will kick the guy out (if they spot it of course or its reported), they have a waiting list for guys so they can afford to be quiet assertive in their policy. Certain clubs just dont give a hoot, so long as you pay your money. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They basically dont like non gym types
Not true, i was there on Friday, there were a range of body sizes. Sorry if the facts get in the way of your speculation.
Hi.
Just read your post on the Le Boudoir thread amd I may have been a little hasty in taking other posters word as gospel as saying I won’t be going. But I’ve been swinging 15+ years and have seen this type of behaviour before.
So what are Fridays like? I know it’s impossible to forecast what it will be like, but is it a friendly club where you can chat or is it a bit clique with us single guys treated as a pariah
Wil
‘Friendly’ is difficult to quantify, in most clubs single guys are not limited in number and pester the couples and girls. The club does NOTHING about it so the couples and girls are understandably pissed off. At LB they will kick the guy out (if they spot it of course or its reported), they have a waiting list for guys so they can afford to be quiet assertive in their policy. Certain clubs just dont give a hoot, so long as you pay your money."
My local club is Townhouse and they limit the number of males on a weekend, they also have a zero tolerance for people breaking the rules (pestering/following couples or females around).
As for “friendly” I meant people chat to other in the social area (everywhere has cliques so they’re expected), and a friendly and sociable person so a club night is about the social side with anything else a bonus.
I’m in town for a night in September (then back throughout the year) so thought I’d give it a whirl as it’s close to where I’m staying in Docklands |
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By *horty4Man
over a year ago
london |
"They basically dont like non gym types
Not true, i was there on Friday, there were a range of body sizes. Sorry if the facts get in the way of your speculation.
Hi.
Just read your post on the Le Boudoir thread amd I may have been a little hasty in taking other posters word as gospel as saying I won’t be going. But I’ve been swinging 15+ years and have seen this type of behaviour before.
So what are Fridays like? I know it’s impossible to forecast what it will be like, but is it a friendly club where you can chat or is it a bit clique with us single guys treated as a pariah
Wil
‘Friendly’ is difficult to quantify, in most clubs single guys are not limited in number and pester the couples and girls. The club does NOTHING about it so the couples and girls are understandably pissed off. At LB they will kick the guy out (if they spot it of course or its reported), they have a waiting list for guys so they can afford to be quiet assertive in their policy. Certain clubs just dont give a hoot, so long as you pay your money.
My local club is Townhouse and they limit the number of males on a weekend, they also have a zero tolerance for people breaking the rules (pestering/following couples or females around).
As for “friendly” I meant people chat to other in the social area (everywhere has cliques so they’re expected), and a friendly and sociable person so a club night is about the social side with anything else a bonus.
I’m in town for a night in September (then back throughout the year) so thought I’d give it a whirl as it’s close to where I’m staying in Docklands"
Yes, absolutely people chat. It was an actual bar once upon a time and still has that setup (plus all the play areas!). So if you’re comfortable chatting in a bar you should be fine there. The advantage of London is that you do get far more people who are there for the first time or at least don’t visit often so that table of regulars you get at other clubs is less of an issue, not that it’s ‘unfriendly’ but can be difficult to introduce yourself. My opinion of course, others will take another view. I’ve been to other clubs that are cheaper but keep going back to LB, for me it the best. No discounts, no favours of any kind from the club by the way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They basically dont like non gym types
Not true, i was there on Friday, there were a range of body sizes. Sorry if the facts get in the way of your speculation.
Hi.
Just read your post on the Le Boudoir thread amd I may have been a little hasty in taking other posters word as gospel as saying I won’t be going. But I’ve been swinging 15+ years and have seen this type of behaviour before.
So what are Fridays like? I know it’s impossible to forecast what it will be like, but is it a friendly club where you can chat or is it a bit clique with us single guys treated as a pariah
Wil
‘Friendly’ is difficult to quantify, in most clubs single guys are not limited in number and pester the couples and girls. The club does NOTHING about it so the couples and girls are understandably pissed off. At LB they will kick the guy out (if they spot it of course or its reported), they have a waiting list for guys so they can afford to be quiet assertive in their policy. Certain clubs just dont give a hoot, so long as you pay your money.
My local club is Townhouse and they limit the number of males on a weekend, they also have a zero tolerance for people breaking the rules (pestering/following couples or females around).
As for “friendly” I meant people chat to other in the social area (everywhere has cliques so they’re expected), and a friendly and sociable person so a club night is about the social side with anything else a bonus.
I’m in town for a night in September (then back throughout the year) so thought I’d give it a whirl as it’s close to where I’m staying in Docklands
Yes, absolutely people chat. It was an actual bar once upon a time and still has that setup (plus all the play areas!). So if you’re comfortable chatting in a bar you should be fine there. The advantage of London is that you do get far more people who are there for the first time or at least don’t visit often so that table of regulars you get at other clubs is less of an issue, not that it’s ‘unfriendly’ but can be difficult to introduce yourself. My opinion of course, others will take another view. I’ve been to other clubs that are cheaper but keep going back to LB, for me it the best. No discounts, no favours of any kind from the club by the way. "
I’ve travelled far and wide with work, so I’ve no issue striking up friendly conversation with strangers and passing the time making new acquaintances
I think with clubs, you find somewhere that you feel comfortable in and keep returning for that reason.
As for the allegations in this thread that you may be in some way receiving some benefit for supporting the club bizarre. Clubs tend not to be short of customers (unless they are truly bad, but even they seem to do ok) and the backing of a single guy in the scene carries little or no weight.
I will try and get tickets for the date I’m down and maybe if you’re there say hello |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What an interesting thread. So I’ve been going to LB for several years and attend both Friday and Saturday nights when I can. Went to the new venue at the weekend, again on both evenings.
In my opinion LB is by far the best club in England, and I’ve been to quite a few.
It’s not cliquey at all. The environment is classy and the atmosphere is naughty. People chat and flirt and there is as much rudeness as you want to participate in. Single guys - be confident, but not arrogant or pushy and you’ll have a great time.
Yes the club has standards of behaviour and looks, but it’s what sets it apart. It’s not trying to appeal to everyone, the management know exactly what they’re doing and they do it exceptionally well. |
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I don’t think we’d even care about a clubs policies were, it’s the people we go for and if they are at all racist, misogynistic, homophobic, bigoted, snooty or cliquey then we’d swerve it for sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They basically dont like non gym types
Not true, i was there on Friday, there were a range of body sizes. Sorry if the facts get in the way of your speculation.
Hi.
Just read your post on the Le Boudoir thread amd I may have been a little hasty in taking other posters word as gospel as saying I won’t be going. But I’ve been swinging 15+ years and have seen this type of behaviour before.
So what are Fridays like? I know it’s impossible to forecast what it will be like, but is it a friendly club where you can chat or is it a bit clique with us single guys treated as a pariah
Wil"
Definitely not lots of couples and single ladies will attend on a Friday because they like the company of single guys. I always find it friendly and social and so looking forward to going back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Best club when a member, avoid at all costs when they won’t renew your membership, hmmmm.
So what if they allow membership based on looks or body size, it’s their club, their rules.
( I don’t see people complaining about there being loads of bbw events, based around body size ultimately )."
Aren’t those events like BBW about appreciation and open to anyone....they’re not condition of entry |
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By *redy81Man
over a year ago
London |
I`ve been only in the old LB yet, but can`t wait to visit the new venue.
As the management/stuff is the same, I expect the same that I experienced as a regular single man in the old club: classy, clean venue, friendly stuff and a professional management who knows what they want and what they do. (No I have no financial interest in the club, don`t even know the stuff in person)
About the crowd: as a single guy, I never ever felt myself treated like a pest, there was always lots of chance to chat with nice couples and gorgeous ladies!
I`m not sure if the rumours about the club being selective on look is true or not. I`ve met people of different body sizes, definitely not gym fits only. Though that`s also true, that the crowd in general is prettier and more attractive compare to other clubs I`ve visited. (And be fair, most customers will appreciate it as a plus point)
However, as the OP said he used to be a regular pre-covid and now has been refused, I smell a rat here...  Unless he picked up 40-50kgs during lockdown, maybe his behaviour during old days could be the bigger issue than his look? |
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Just thought we would add in to say that for us it is among the best clubs in Europe and we’ve been to our fair share of clubs in Europe. We have always found the club to be friendly with world class facilities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"LB was my best club before the pandemic, but things are changing. I lost my single membership because of their system, I tried to sign up again they refused as they have too many singles! I emailed them back to ask for my old account, one of team replied by email said I was not a member before! Means I’m liar, also he does not like my photo. So are they selecting people based on appearance? "
Did you ask them for the reason they refused your membership? Just in case it's something simple.
Otherwise, it's a private club and they can admit and refuse anyone they like. If it's not a match, there are loads of other clubs, groups and parties to try. |
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