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Sundays at Chams (Darlaston)
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By *iBloom OP Couple
over a year ago
Carmarthen |
We are considering visiting Chams for the first time at the end of this month, but would only be able to do the Sunday. Could anyone give an idea of what it was typically like on Sundays please? Just trying to weigh up whether to give the Sunday a shot or leave it until a weekend when we're free on Saturday. Cheers. |
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By *iBloom OP Couple
over a year ago
Carmarthen |
"Pre covid Sundays were fairly chilled, quiet compared to fri/sat. I guess it'd be a bit or miss situation. But it's been closed for over a year so chances are it could be busy. "
Thanks x |
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We've been on Sunday a fair few times and like it. Normally from opening to close. There's normally a fair few in. It tents to be a bit more of a chilled/relaxed atmosphere (compared to a Fri/Sat). Also (at least in our experience) a bit more kink upstairs seems happens on a Sunday. So not as wild as the Fri/Sat but still a good day/night. But then you can just never predict Chameleons, some of our wildest nights have been in the week. |
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By *iBloom OP Couple
over a year ago
Carmarthen |
"We've been on Sunday a fair few times and like it. Normally from opening to close. There's normally a fair few in. It tents to be a bit more of a chilled/relaxed atmosphere (compared to a Fri/Sat). Also (at least in our experience) a bit more kink upstairs seems happens on a Sunday. So not as wild as the Fri/Sat but still a good day/night. But then you can just never predict Chameleons, some of our wildest nights have been in the week."
Thanks! Chilled and relaxed might be good for a first visit, as we're relative swinging newbies and have heard Chams can be a bit full on.
Our only other concern was that, as single men are allowed in, the ratio of singles guys to ladies and couples is kept half way sensible... |
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We enjoy the Sundays as. Its very chilled and tend to get lots of people comming and going throughout the day. Early evening is normally busy.
It's nice on a hot day sunbathing on the outside sunbeds and then playing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As mentioned above, Sundays are relaxed.
They are good days to explore and dip your toe in.
My wife & I like them, although we do go on Fridays/Saturdays too, work and family priorities depending.
Definitely recommend trying Chameleons, it's such a good club. |
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"If u judging single guys then stick to Saturday nites
Gets on my nerves couples who think it’s all about them and their enjoyment"
Didn’t see it as judging single guys, more seeing if the night would work for them. We all have ideal ratios, of course we accept things outside perfect but there is a point for all where the balance doesn’t work. |
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By *S2004Man
over a year ago
Bromsgrove |
"Just go with the flow
Haven’t we had enough control and restrictions
Just chill and go for it and stop over thinking it
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Always find these type of posts interesting. I fully understand your point, however there are hundreds of restrictions that we happily obey (not covid related ones) but speed limits, d*unk driving limits, arriving to work on time, not committing crimes etc
Very few would advocate anarchy. All I saw from the original poster was a query whether a Sunday would be appropriate for people new to swinging.
Going with the flow and being overwhelmed with single guys following them wanking would be very off putting and may put a genuine off from swinging, which would be a shame. By nature swingers are out for a good time (probably more so than a vanilla individual) but still have boundaries and preferences |
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By *iBloom OP Couple
over a year ago
Carmarthen |
"Just go with the flow
Haven’t we had enough control and restrictions
Just chill and go for it and stop over thinking it
Always find these type of posts interesting. I fully understand your point, however there are hundreds of restrictions that we happily obey (not covid related ones) but speed limits, d*unk driving limits, arriving to work on time, not committing crimes etc
Very few would advocate anarchy. All I saw from the original poster was a query whether a Sunday would be appropriate for people new to swinging.
Going with the flow and being overwhelmed with single guys following them wanking would be very off putting and may put a genuine off from swinging, which would be a shame. By nature swingers are out for a good time (probably more so than a vanilla individual) but still have boundaries and preferences "
This. Not sure why that other dude jumped to the conclusion we were judging single guys when all we asked was whether the club operates a ratio system. 'Chip' and 'shoulder' much? |
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By *S2004Man
over a year ago
Bromsgrove |
"Just go with the flow
Haven’t we had enough control and restrictions
Just chill and go for it and stop over thinking it
Always find these type of posts interesting. I fully understand your point, however there are hundreds of restrictions that we happily obey (not covid related ones) but speed limits, d*unk driving limits, arriving to work on time, not committing crimes etc
Very few would advocate anarchy. All I saw from the original poster was a query whether a Sunday would be appropriate for people new to swinging.
Going with the flow and being overwhelmed with single guys following them wanking would be very off putting and may put a genuine off from swinging, which would be a shame. By nature swingers are out for a good time (probably more so than a vanilla individual) but still have boundaries and preferences
This. Not sure why that other dude jumped to the conclusion we were judging single guys when all we asked was whether the club operates a ratio system. 'Chip' and 'shoulder' much? "
In answer, not as such, Saturdays are not open single males so if they are not what you are looking for Saturdays are good. If they are other days are quite pot luck. Obviously the charging policy naturally keeps a balance |
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By *iBloom OP Couple
over a year ago
Carmarthen |
"Just go with the flow
Haven’t we had enough control and restrictions
Just chill and go for it and stop over thinking it
Always find these type of posts interesting. I fully understand your point, however there are hundreds of restrictions that we happily obey (not covid related ones) but speed limits, d*unk driving limits, arriving to work on time, not committing crimes etc
Very few would advocate anarchy. All I saw from the original poster was a query whether a Sunday would be appropriate for people new to swinging.
Going with the flow and being overwhelmed with single guys following them wanking would be very off putting and may put a genuine off from swinging, which would be a shame. By nature swingers are out for a good time (probably more so than a vanilla individual) but still have boundaries and preferences
This. Not sure why that other dude jumped to the conclusion we were judging single guys when all we asked was whether the club operates a ratio system. 'Chip' and 'shoulder' much?
In answer, not as such, Saturdays are not open single males so if they are not what you are looking for Saturdays are good. If they are other days are quite pot luck. Obviously the charging policy naturally keeps a balance"
Thanks for the answer. We aren't opposed to single males and would be interested in playing with the right ones in the right circumstances, but don't want to feel overwhelmed as per the scenario described above. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
london |
"We've been on Sunday a fair few times and like it. Normally from opening to close. There's normally a fair few in. It tents to be a bit more of a chilled/relaxed atmosphere (compared to a Fri/Sat). Also (at least in our experience) a bit more kink upstairs seems happens on a Sunday. So not as wild as the Fri/Sat but still a good day/night. But then you can just never predict Chameleons, some of our wildest nights have been in the week.
Thanks! Chilled and relaxed might be good for a first visit, as we're relative swinging newbies and have heard Chams can be a bit full on.
Our only other concern was that, as single men are allowed in, the ratio of singles guys to ladies and couples is kept half way sensible..."
I am not aware they operate a strict ratio, all I can say that having gone on both on a Friday and saturday night it's generally a good mix and balance of people and most of the single guys are good fun and sociable, the bar area is very relaxed and you can sit and watch the world go by...  |
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Thanks for the answer. We aren't opposed to single males and would be interested in playing with the right ones in the right circumstances, but don't want to feel overwhelmed as per the scenario described above. "
I've never witnessed single men following people round and wanking, at any club I've been to! Yes, men may have a wank if a couple were playing in an open area and that's to be expected but not follow them around. |
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By *S2004Man
over a year ago
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Thanks for the answer. We aren't opposed to single males and would be interested in playing with the right ones in the right circumstances, but don't want to feel overwhelmed as per the scenario described above.
I've never witnessed single men following people round and wanking, at any club I've been to! Yes, men may have a wank if a couple were playing in an open area and that's to be expected but not follow them around. "
Unfortunately I have had that experience on more than one occasion, hopefully we will be entering a brave new dawn as it were  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No chip on shoulder but did expect that to be the reply
Being to many clubs and found single guys to be very respectful
Never seen any issues with any one maybe I’m just lucky
The couple said our other concern
The word concern made me reply
Meet loads thought I would defend single guys it’s freedom of speech but you get the chip on shoulder reply
I’m chilled and don’t judge just saying like and have fun when every u choose |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thanks for the answer. We aren't opposed to single males and would be interested in playing with the right ones in the right circumstances, but don't want to feel overwhelmed as per the scenario described above.
I've never witnessed single men following people round and wanking, at any club I've been to! Yes, men may have a wank if a couple were playing in an open area and that's to be expected but not follow them around. "
Unfortunately we have witnessed it on several occasions at different places not just chams xx |
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By *S2004Man
over a year ago
Bromsgrove |
"Get overwhelmed
Omg get u you might get ignored wouldn’t that be shocking "
I think everyone has different viewpoint of what is overwhelming for them. There are some beginning a swinging lifestyle that may find something too much that others would absolutely welcome. The concern wasn’t aimed at single men perse.but at the fact they were worried that the balance would be uncomfortable. |
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If single guys are a "concern", just wait till you meet some of the men on couples-only nights who think that they can get away with anything because they have a woman in tow.
There's good & bad in all, being "single" or "couple'd" isn't the defining factor. |
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By *iBloom OP Couple
over a year ago
Carmarthen |
"If single guys are a "concern", just wait till you meet some of the men on couples-only nights who think that they can get away with anything because they have a woman in tow.
There's good & bad in all, being "single" or "couple'd" isn't the defining factor."
Please point out where I suggested otherwise? None of our posts said anything to slag off single guys.
It was made perfectly clear that our concern is the possibility of couples and ladies being outnumbered by men on a non couples night, which as others have pointed out, might well be unnerving for first time visitors. Not our fault that some of you have insisted on interpreting that as us negatively judging single men!
KS2004 thank you - at least someone gets it! |
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