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"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "shes scared you might like it ha! | |||
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"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "Guess it depends how you define hot lol.... but I’ve been to plenty and never been disappointed  | |||
"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true?
Guess it depends how you define hot lol.... but I’ve been to plenty and never been disappointed "Hopefully bump into you again when we can get back down south to clubs  | |||
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"Plenty of hot guys but guess depends what you into." men that look after their bodies well and nice face... | |||
"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "TheHotWifeClub @ libs event I host has some gorgeous men come. We vet them or make sure verified xxx | |||
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"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "She's keeping them all to herself. | |||
"Ofcourse Who would want go to club full off granny's milfs n married women and random people expose themselves like a proper wanker People with standard don't go to meet junkies Thess good looking guys who is got standards don't even come here Why would they when they getting fit young hot girls somewhere else " Because they, like many of us, want to be part of a community and a lifestyle rather than just looking for a quick hook up to scratch an itch. | |||
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"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "There is a vast n varied mixture, same as walking down the street..... But I have met some extremely hot men in clubs, and some really lovely ones and some utter idiots etc etc | |||
"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "go to infusions Blackpool very good club you will enjoy | |||
"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "Your friend had clearly been to the wrong clubs | |||
"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "Yes | |||
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"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "I would say mostly true | |||
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"A ridiculous sweeping statement. Has your friend been to every single club every single night? If you go to a club, just like going out on the piss, there will be all sorts of people there. I've been to clubs and seen people I've been attracted to, and people I haven't. There's only one way to find out for yourself " Sweeping statement I agree but comparing it to a normal night out isn’t really true. I’ve been to a fair few clubs and I’m nearly always the youngest guy there. I know she said hot but if she finds younger men generally hotter then I’m not sure she will have much success on the club scene. I’ve not been to every night at every club and the theme can also dictate the age a little, but from my experience most other single men were about 15 years older than me on average. Basically I agree but the comparisons to a night out on the piss? No way | |||
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"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "It's as true as saying that good looking women don't go to adult clubs.  | |||
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"I have never been but want to. Just need some direction x" Have you got a SatNav ? | |||
"I have never been but want to. Just need some direction x Have you got a SatNav ?" | |||
"I have never been but want to. Just need some direction x Have you got a SatNav ?" . Haha yes. | |||
"I have never been but want to. Just need some direction x Have you got a SatNav ?. Haha yes. " When they reopen properly just get yourself to one near you, I've ventured to a few on my lonesome and every time been made to feel welcome | |||
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But yes, Hot young guys do go to clubs | |||
"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "I am actually surprised an adult like you would ask such degrading n childish question. First of all.. define good looking.. good looking for you or good looking for your friend. This is an adult scene and to get in it you need to start thinking like an adult and that is going to a club yourself and judging by your own standard. Ask yourself.. are you good looking?? Maybe yes to some and no to others... exactly how it is in all clubs. No club specifically says 'only ugly guys are allowed' everyone one is allowed to attend. The 'i am better than others ' attitude should be discouraged as the swinging scene is a non judgemental environment were respect for all is key. It is an adult scene.. act it.. go to a club and you might find people you like and people you don't like. That does not mean the people you don't like dont have people that like them. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and everyone is good looking to somebody. | |||
"I’ve been to clubs/parties where there has been no one I’ve found attractive. Sometimes there are 1 or 2, but I’m very particular about what I like. This will be a very unpopular view, but what I’ve found is that there are always lots of people I find very unattractive and if it’s a club with an early dress down policy or lots of open play it can really kill my sexiness vibe. There are specific party nights that cater to different things; your best bet is to try find one that suits what you’re looking for. If you just turn up to your local club on a random night you might be disappointed in terms of play. If you’ve never been to one you should definitely go. You can always let a few guys you think are hot know you’re going, or go with a partner to guarantee you some good play. " This has been the best and most honest reply, and mirrors my experiences of the club scene; they really are filled with all sorts, and not necessarily people you will find attractive. This is probably where the term 'clicky' comes from, as groups of friends only interested in each other, stick together in the club  | |||
"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true?
I am actually surprised an adult like you would ask such degrading n childish question.
First of all.. define good looking.. good looking for you or good looking for your friend.
This is an adult scene and to get in it you need to start thinking like an adult and that is going to a club yourself and judging by your own standard.
Ask yourself.. are you good looking?? Maybe yes to some and no to others... exactly how it is in all clubs. No club specifically says 'only ugly guys are allowed' everyone one is allowed to attend.
The 'i am better than others ' attitude should be discouraged as the swinging scene is a non judgemental environment were respect for all is key.
It is an adult scene.. act it.. go to a club and you might find people you like and people you don't like. That does not mean the people you don't like dont have people that like them. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and everyone is good looking to somebody." | |||
"I’ve been to clubs/parties where there has been no one I’ve found attractive. Sometimes there are 1 or 2, but I’m very particular about what I like. This will be a very unpopular view, but what I’ve found is that there are always lots of people I find very unattractive and if it’s a club with an early dress down policy or lots of open play it can really kill my sexiness vibe. There are specific party nights that cater to different things; your best bet is to try find one that suits what you’re looking for. If you just turn up to your local club on a random night you might be disappointed in terms of play. If you’ve never been to one you should definitely go. You can always let a few guys you think are hot know you’re going, or go with a partner to guarantee you some good play. This has been the best and most honest reply, and mirrors my experiences of the club scene; they really are filled with all sorts, and not necessarily people you will find attractive. This is probably where the term 'clicky' comes from, as groups of friends only interested in each other, stick together in the club "Yeah that’s probably right. There’s usually someone for everyone and who you find attractive is very personal. | |||
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"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "its catch 22 some females in clubs are hot most average.No different from this site or plenty of fish. | |||
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"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "I’ve been 
Depends what you class as good looking | |||
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"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true?
I’ve been
Depends what you class as good looking "men that take care of their bodies, looking smart and tidy with good manners | |||
"It depends what you define as 'hot' Sure, if you're expecting a room full of Jasn Momoa lookalikeys, chances are you won't find them. But everyone's tastes are different. Take myself. I look at myself in the mirror, particularly when dressed smartly to go swinging, and think I look good. I'm definitely not hideously ugly. But I also know that I'm FAR from the archetype of a 'fit guy', and am most definitely NOT to a lot of people's taste. For one thing, I'm very tall; for another, I'm slightly overweight [not just because of Cockdown, but because of my epilepsy medication] and my speaking voice, which is quite deep and theatrical, can make people think I'm a 'posh nob' [when in fact nothing could be further from the truth; in point of fact I'm quite poor, which is also offputting] Worst of all, though, I have 'indie hair', which is definitely a no-no in a scene where women tend to like 'geezers that look like geezers' and think that 'alternative' blokes are a bit wimpy. This has been proven too, as when I shaved down to a skinhead for a couple of years, a lot of women who hadn't given me the slightest glance started to suddenly see me as attractive- then when I began to grow it back again, they immediately LOST interest once more. And, naturally, the precise reverse also applied 25 or so years ago when I used to frequent gothy fetish clubs [or fetishy goth clubs]; when I looked like Alice Cooper, Brett Anderson or Richey Edwards, 'game' was 'on', but the minute I shaved my hair off and started to look more 'alpha', the women there found me so threatening that they wouldn't even talk to me. In short, I've still never found one single image which is 'universally attractive' to the opposite sex, whether vanilla or on the scene- which leads me to believe such a thing doesn't actually exist. It really is a matter of horses for courses- and pay attention because those courses change daily. Sure, there are some lucky sods who are just naturally VERY good-looking; however, as another poster said earlier, a lot of them are also utter himbos with huge egos and no personality. And, dare I add, a fair few are also downright rude and aggressive into the bargain. At least one of my acquaintance used to regularly break etiquette codes by pushing himself in there with various women [in front of their partners as well] because he genuinely believed his looks meant he could do that and get away with it, and wasn't above strongarming other guys out of the way to do so; what was even more worrying, however, was that a fair few people let him. Ultimately, all I could do was just hope to God that people didn't see me that way. Similarly, there was also another bloke I knew on the London scene who was always surrounded by assorted beautiful 'poly' women; so, being a single poly guy myself, I too would attempt to politely approach said ladies, introduce myself, and ask very discreetly and gently if they might be playing later [and if so, whether they would possibly consider inviting me] I saw no problem with this; the worst that could happen would be their polite decline, which I would gracefully accept then move on. And besides, it was almost precisely the same as what people would ask me when I was with any of my play partners- so I saw no problem with the boot being on the other foot. Unfortunately, however, this one bloke found me so laughable that he would actually vocally ridicule me and laugh in my face before the women in question ever got a chance to respond- presumably because he obviously assumed that as he was more 'buff' than me he had the right to. Of course he didn't, and one day when he got too stroppy, I reported him; whether he learnt from this not to be too smug about his attributes I guess I will never know, as the club closed down soon afterwards, but again, it didn't paint too much of a positive picture of the 'beautiful people' [for want of a better term] Rather, all it did was reiterate my suspicion that empty vessels made the most noise. And they still do. The fact is, when it comes down to it, I'm not classically handsome or hot at all. In fact, I'm a nerdy geek. But I can still carry myself well, and in doing so have had some of the best fun of my life in swingers clubs. Sure, a lot if it is down to presentation- spot the difference, for instance, between the late Rik Mayall as Richard Richard in Bottom and as Lord Flashheart in Blackadder, and tell me who's the one more likely to gain female attention. Similarly, being polite and clean helps too [though I was also once told by a woman at Arousal that I was 'too polite' for her liking] ; by those methods, I believe, have I made myself 'hot' when really I'm not. And I think many other men will feel be the same, and all have something to offer the discerning woman if they look closely enough. It just all comes down in the end to what that woman is looking for. As a man, I never searh for false ideals of supermodel beauty. But then again, also as a man, I feel I'm not in a position to. So I guess my advice for newbie women afraid of the quality of the menfolk would be [a] arrive with no preconceptions and you'll be pleasantly surprised; and [b] remember, you're very much in control. With that in mind, you will eventually find what you are seeking. Hopefully, more than once. " It's a trek to get to, might have to stay over night, plus have the take a day off work so I wana know after all that investment, will I just be surrounded by average looking/middle aged men who lack social skills like when people go to single clubs back in the 90s. just what my friend experienced in the past, going to these kind of places.. | |||
"It depends what you define as 'hot' Sure, if you're expecting a room full of Jasn Momoa lookalikeys, chances are you won't find them. But everyone's tastes are different. Take myself. I look at myself in the mirror, particularly when dressed smartly to go swinging, and think I look good. I'm definitely not hideously ugly. But I also know that I'm FAR from the archetype of a 'fit guy', and am most definitely NOT to a lot of people's taste. For one thing, I'm very tall; for another, I'm slightly overweight [not just because of Cockdown, but because of my epilepsy medication] and my speaking voice, which is quite deep and theatrical, can make people think I'm a 'posh nob' [when in fact nothing could be further from the truth; in point of fact I'm quite poor, which is also offputting] Worst of all, though, I have 'indie hair', which is definitely a no-no in a scene where women tend to like 'geezers that look like geezers' and think that 'alternative' blokes are a bit wimpy. This has been proven too, as when I shaved down to a skinhead for a couple of years, a lot of women who hadn't given me the slightest glance started to suddenly see me as attractive- then when I began to grow it back again, they immediately LOST interest once more. And, naturally, the precise reverse also applied 25 or so years ago when I used to frequent gothy fetish clubs [or fetishy goth clubs]; when I looked like Alice Cooper, Brett Anderson or Richey Edwards, 'game' was 'on', but the minute I shaved my hair off and started to look more 'alpha', the women there found me so threatening that they wouldn't even talk to me. In short, I've still never found one single image which is 'universally attractive' to the opposite sex, whether vanilla or on the scene- which leads me to believe such a thing doesn't actually exist. It really is a matter of horses for courses- and pay attention because those courses change daily. Sure, there are some lucky sods who are just naturally VERY good-looking; however, as another poster said earlier, a lot of them are also utter himbos with huge egos and no personality. And, dare I add, a fair few are also downright rude and aggressive into the bargain. At least one of my acquaintance used to regularly break etiquette codes by pushing himself in there with various women [in front of their partners as well] because he genuinely believed his looks meant he could do that and get away with it, and wasn't above strongarming other guys out of the way to do so; what was even more worrying, however, was that a fair few people let him. Ultimately, all I could do was just hope to God that people didn't see me that way. Similarly, there was also another bloke I knew on the London scene who was always surrounded by assorted beautiful 'poly' women; so, being a single poly guy myself, I too would attempt to politely approach said ladies, introduce myself, and ask very discreetly and gently if they might be playing later [and if so, whether they would possibly consider inviting me] I saw no problem with this; the worst that could happen would be their polite decline, which I would gracefully accept then move on. And besides, it was almost precisely the same as what people would ask me when I was with any of my play partners- so I saw no problem with the boot being on the other foot. Unfortunately, however, this one bloke found me so laughable that he would actually vocally ridicule me and laugh in my face before the women in question ever got a chance to respond- presumably because he obviously assumed that as he was more 'buff' than me he had the right to. Of course he didn't, and one day when he got too stroppy, I reported him; whether he learnt from this not to be too smug about his attributes I guess I will never know, as the club closed down soon afterwards, but again, it didn't paint too much of a positive picture of the 'beautiful people' [for want of a better term] Rather, all it did was reiterate my suspicion that empty vessels made the most noise. And they still do. The fact is, when it comes down to it, I'm not classically handsome or hot at all. In fact, I'm a nerdy geek. But I can still carry myself well, and in doing so have had some of the best fun of my life in swingers clubs. Sure, a lot if it is down to presentation- spot the difference, for instance, between the late Rik Mayall as Richard Richard in Bottom and as Lord Flashheart in Blackadder, and tell me who's the one more likely to gain female attention. Similarly, being polite and clean helps too [though I was also once told by a woman at Arousal that I was 'too polite' for her liking] ; by those methods, I believe, have I made myself 'hot' when really I'm not. And I think many other men will feel be the same, and all have something to offer the discerning woman if they look closely enough. It just all comes down in the end to what that woman is looking for. As a man, I never searh for false ideals of supermodel beauty. But then again, also as a man, I feel I'm not in a position to. So I guess my advice for newbie women afraid of the quality of the menfolk would be [a] arrive with no preconceptions and you'll be pleasantly surprised; and [b] remember, you're very much in control. With that in mind, you will eventually find what you are seeking. Hopefully, more than once. It's a trek to get to, might have to stay over night, plus have the take a day off work so I wana know after all that investment, will I just be surrounded by average looking/middle aged men who lack social skills like when people go to single clubs back in the 90s. just what my friend experienced in the past, going to these kind of places.. "Well, a lot of the men may well be average looking, and a lot of them will be middle aged. But that doesn't mean they won't be smart, polite, clean and 'hot' in their own way. I can't say anything like 'yes, but just watch out for a few fatties and uggas' because frankly, it's not my place to be that judgmental. Who am I to say what women should or shouldn't find appealing in a man? Though obviously, there are reasonable exceptions. If, of course, you're looking for fit yung Adonises only, maybe a 'cougars and cubs night' might be more suitable- and there are plenty of those at swingers clubs. Although it sounds to me as if your friend has had a bad experience or two, and you're allowing it to put you off before you've even begun. Try not to. | |||
"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true?
There is a vast n varied mixture, same as walking down the street.....
But I have met some extremely hot men in clubs, and some really lovely ones and some utter idiots etc etc "What do you class me as Hanky, Do you think all the best looking guys hang out at Club Play Blackpool | |||
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"It depends what you define as 'hot' Sure, if you're expecting a room full of Jasn Momoa lookalikeys, chances are you won't find them. But everyone's tastes are different. Take myself. I look at myself in the mirror, particularly when dressed smartly to go swinging, and think I look good. I'm definitely not hideously ugly. But I also know that I'm FAR from the archetype of a 'fit guy', and am most definitely NOT to a lot of people's taste. For one thing, I'm very tall; for another, I'm slightly overweight [not just because of Cockdown, but because of my epilepsy medication] and my speaking voice, which is quite deep and theatrical, can make people think I'm a 'posh nob' [when in fact nothing could be further from the truth; in point of fact I'm quite poor, which is also offputting] Worst of all, though, I have 'indie hair', which is definitely a no-no in a scene where women tend to like 'geezers that look like geezers' and think that 'alternative' blokes are a bit wimpy. This has been proven too, as when I shaved down to a skinhead for a couple of years, a lot of women who hadn't given me the slightest glance started to suddenly see me as attractive- then when I began to grow it back again, they immediately LOST interest once more. And, naturally, the precise reverse also applied 25 or so years ago when I used to frequent gothy fetish clubs [or fetishy goth clubs]; when I looked like Alice Cooper, Brett Anderson or Richey Edwards, 'game' was 'on', but the minute I shaved my hair off and started to look more 'alpha', the women there found me so threatening that they wouldn't even talk to me. In short, I've still never found one single image which is 'universally attractive' to the opposite sex, whether vanilla or on the scene- which leads me to believe such a thing doesn't actually exist. It really is a matter of horses for courses- and pay attention because those courses change daily. Sure, there are some lucky sods who are just naturally VERY good-looking; however, as another poster said earlier, a lot of them are also utter himbos with huge egos and no personality. And, dare I add, a fair few are also downright rude and aggressive into the bargain. At least one of my acquaintance used to regularly break etiquette codes by pushing himself in there with various women [in front of their partners as well] because he genuinely believed his looks meant he could do that and get away with it, and wasn't above strongarming other guys out of the way to do so; what was even more worrying, however, was that a fair few people let him. Ultimately, all I could do was just hope to God that people didn't see me that way. Similarly, there was also another bloke I knew on the London scene who was always surrounded by assorted beautiful 'poly' women; so, being a single poly guy myself, I too would attempt to politely approach said ladies, introduce myself, and ask very discreetly and gently if they might be playing later [and if so, whether they would possibly consider inviting me] I saw no problem with this; the worst that could happen would be their polite decline, which I would gracefully accept then move on. And besides, it was almost precisely the same as what people would ask me when I was with any of my play partners- so I saw no problem with the boot being on the other foot. Unfortunately, however, this one bloke found me so laughable that he would actually vocally ridicule me and laugh in my face before the women in question ever got a chance to respond- presumably because he obviously assumed that as he was more 'buff' than me he had the right to. Of course he didn't, and one day when he got too stroppy, I reported him; whether he learnt from this not to be too smug about his attributes I guess I will never know, as the club closed down soon afterwards, but again, it didn't paint too much of a positive picture of the 'beautiful people' [for want of a better term] Rather, all it did was reiterate my suspicion that empty vessels made the most noise. And they still do. The fact is, when it comes down to it, I'm not classically handsome or hot at all. In fact, I'm a nerdy geek. But I can still carry myself well, and in doing so have had some of the best fun of my life in swingers clubs. Sure, a lot if it is down to presentation- spot the difference, for instance, between the late Rik Mayall as Richard Richard in Bottom and as Lord Flashheart in Blackadder, and tell me who's the one more likely to gain female attention. Similarly, being polite and clean helps too [though I was also once told by a woman at Arousal that I was 'too polite' for her liking] ; by those methods, I believe, have I made myself 'hot' when really I'm not. And I think many other men will feel be the same, and all have something to offer the discerning woman if they look closely enough. It just all comes down in the end to what that woman is looking for. As a man, I never searh for false ideals of supermodel beauty. But then again, also as a man, I feel I'm not in a position to. So I guess my advice for newbie women afraid of the quality of the menfolk would be [a] arrive with no preconceptions and you'll be pleasantly surprised; and [b] remember, you're very much in control. With that in mind, you will eventually find what you are seeking. Hopefully, more than once. " What a great, and honest description of yourself mate, fair play to you | |||
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"My experience of a lot of people watching at clubs is, If you are black, young, ripped, chatty you get the best chances, " It definitely got that way in London towards the end of my tenure there, except at BiKink. One of the reasons why I was so glad to leave the area. | |||
"My experience of a lot of people watching at clubs is, If you are black, young, ripped, chatty you get the best chances, " . What about brown? And is a healthy 35 pass as young? Ha. Always told I look younger. | |||
"My experience of a lot of people watching at clubs is, If you are black, young, ripped, chatty you get the best chances, . What about brown? And is a healthy 35 pass as young? Ha. Always told I look younger. " You would do well bro dw lol | |||
"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true?
I’ve been
Depends what you class as good looking
men that take care of their bodies, looking smart and tidy with good manners "Well i tick both boxes myself but I’m not sure everyone who looks at me does the same :p | |||
"My experience of a lot of people watching at clubs is, If you are black, young, ripped, chatty you get the best chances, " Love to know what club this happened at. I agree on the chatty part only, or confidence, no matter their skin colour or body type, I'm not going to have sex with someone that hasn't spoken to me. | |||
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"My friend says I will be disappointed if I go to an adult clubs, as good looking guys don't go,is that true? "From reading this & some of your other posts I agree with your friend the kind of guys you seem to be looking for are rare in clubs (or at least the ones I've been to) Have you looked into La Boudoir in London, you have to apply for membership & I believe they only grant access to people the consider to be a 10/10 | |||
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"Depends on personal tastes or how shallow or fickle some people are. Have you ever heard the saying, 'don't judge a book by its cover'. " It’s ok to want to be physically attracted to someone isn’t it? | |||
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"My experience of a lot of people watching at clubs is, If you are black, young, ripped, chatty you get the best chances, " Black guys and bi guys seem to leave the bulk of positive club reviews | |||
"My experience of a lot of people watching at clubs is, If you are black, young, ripped, chatty you get the best chances, Black guys and bi guys seem to leave the bulk of positive club reviews "That's cus most guys cba to post they too busy trying get meets then having em.. More woman reply but do u say they black or bi though.. just don't judge others be yourself open honest goes a long way... Im curvy and old.. do I care that get called fat and old no cus the ones worth while judge u for u not against others Why does everything get twisted so easily these days Just have uncomplicated fun xx | |||
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"Thanks for the comments. I wait and see which opportunities arises for me to attend a club "In my opinion after years of swinging and hundreds of hours of club people watching… Birds of a feather flock together. All of the swinging stereotypes will be there.. The hot fitty gym bunnies tend to gravitate to each other…the average milfs & dilfs do the same… The bigger folks etc etc There’s some cross over but there’s an enormous amount of snobbery I think… However, if you’re a single female…. You will get attention no matter what… Just go and enjoy… decide on your own stereotypes ???? | |||
