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BGHS May Part 2
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By *rfun OP Man
over a year ago
Southampton |
so from forum posts in now closed too long looks like everything is open. thou if you don't get what you're after or want to hang around too long after its not gonna happen as they are limiting to four hour sessions.. |
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Love BGHS. I was one of their first customers back in 1985 and have been going ever since. Tricky situation for them as swingers (et al) are a big part of their custom BUT some of the "straight naturist" types really don't like seeing stuff going on and also they don't want the council to label them a "sex establishment" - bit of a balancing act really, hence the rules about going upstairs to play + they have had a lot of issues at times with rather badly behaved pushy singles. Personally I think its a shame as Saturdays and Sundays were pretty naughty way back when. Big love to Angie, Sam, Mike & Pam nevertheless.  |
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I had just been considering going with a friend - and now after reading this very thread I am not so sure based on comments from those who seem to have recently participated or intend to go. "If you don't get what you're after", "it will encourage more play less hanging around", "shame that couples sometimes feel uncomfortable when ... followed around". I'm sorry, what? When is it EVER OK to follow people around?! Seriously?
I started planning and thinking how lovely it would be to go to a spa, be naked and relaxed and now I am full of doubt. If harrassment is what I have to look forward to then there is hardly any point going to all the trouble of getting there! And this literally when my friends had to leave another naturist place just a few days ago after barely 40 minutes because they were feeling unsafe. It is as if a large number of men who attend naturist places wish to have the places only to themselves and are determined to force women to leave - because that is the atmosphere that my friends have been greeted with and I have experienced numerous times at Rio's. I had to be constantly alert and protect myself from predatory behaviour and I am really not sure that I am ready to have to do that right now. What a disappointment! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had just been considering going with a friend - and now after reading this very thread I am not so sure based on comments from those who seem to have recently participated or intend to go. "If you don't get what you're after", "it will encourage more play less hanging around", "shame that couples sometimes feel uncomfortable when ... followed around". I'm sorry, what? When is it EVER OK to follow people around?! Seriously?
I started planning and thinking how lovely it would be to go to a spa, be naked and relaxed and now I am full of doubt. If harrassment is what I have to look forward to then there is hardly any point going to all the trouble of getting there! And this literally when my friends had to leave another naturist place just a few days ago after barely 40 minutes because they were feeling unsafe. It is as if a large number of men who attend naturist places wish to have the places only to themselves and are determined to force women to leave - because that is the atmosphere that my friends have been greeted with and I have experienced numerous times at Rio's. I had to be constantly alert and protect myself from predatory behaviour and I am really not sure that I am ready to have to do that right now. What a disappointment!"
I wouldn't say that was our experience at all there. The spa and the play areas/rest rooms are on different floors so if you're not interested in that element you don't have to go up there. The spa we felt was very relaxing and enjoyable. Yes the men do look at you, but for us everyone was friendly, engaged in polite conversation and I didn't feel uncomfortable at all despite going on a day where we were heavily outnumbered by men.
Up in the restrooms there was some loitering going on, we had one man who was a bit keen that we didn't want to join us but went away after we said no.
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
"I had just been considering going with a friend - and now after reading this very thread I am not so sure based on comments from those who seem to have recently participated or intend to go. "If you don't get what you're after", "it will encourage more play less hanging around", "shame that couples sometimes feel uncomfortable when ... followed around". I'm sorry, what? When is it EVER OK to follow people around?! Seriously?
I started planning and thinking how lovely it would be to go to a spa, be naked and relaxed and now I am full of doubt. If harrassment is what I have to look forward to then there is hardly any point going to all the trouble of getting there! And this literally when my friends had to leave another naturist place just a few days ago after barely 40 minutes because they were feeling unsafe. It is as if a large number of men who attend naturist places wish to have the places only to themselves and are determined to force women to leave - because that is the atmosphere that my friends have been greeted with and I have experienced numerous times at Rio's. I had to be constantly alert and protect myself from predatory behaviour and I am really not sure that I am ready to have to do that right now. What a disappointment!"
I had been at BGHS twice before during the day, as a single woman. I can’t say I ever felt unsafe, as there is always staff around and they have a zero tolerance policy, but yes, it is annoying that fully grown men follow you everywhere when you just want to have a soak to relieve stress and in my case aching muscles following marathon training. They start talking to you whennI clearly did not want to talk, I just wanted to relax!
However, this weekend I was there with a male friend and the experience is soooooo different! It is light, relaxed, wonderful. Other couples just do their own thing or they chat if you talk to them... my friend wouldn’t shut up.  capacity is also very reduced so only 4 people or 2 bubbles in each jacuzzi or steam room/sauna etc, so it’s more relaxed. I think this was the best experience for me. The problem is, of course, finding someone to go with if I want to go regularly...
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By *apdagdeCouple
over a year ago
Norfolk |
We went to BGHS on Saturday evening 22/5. We had a fabulous time, a very well organised covid safe environment and it was great to be back at a spa. The staff were lovely as always. We had such a good time we visited again on Sunday evening, although it had a slightly different vibe, we again had a splendid evening. Drop us a message if you think we chatted... |
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We also attended on Saturday evening, We didn't manage to interact much with other couples since it was our first time there and just learning the ropes, but had a great time! We spent quite some time in the large playroom with the door open but must have been too late in the night for others to pop in. We've booked our return visit and cannot wait! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t get why single men get so thirsty in spas etc , it’s like they have never seen a naked woman.
Go there enjoy the spa and if you do happen to have fun surely that’s just a bonus. |
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We love it but our last visit was somewhat spoilt by a couple of guy's who decided to follow my wife and I into the "rest room" we went into the"rest" room for a quiet lie down together and chill.
They kept knocking on the door and interrupting our quiet meditation.
We adore bghs and like the strict standards and rule's.
If guy's just chilled out a little and try to engage in conversation they may find themselves invited for some quiet meditation also. |
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"I had just been considering going with a friend - and now after reading this very thread I am not so sure based on comments from those who seem to have recently participated or intend to go. "If you don't get what you're after", "it will encourage more play less hanging around", "shame that couples sometimes feel uncomfortable when ... followed around". I'm sorry, what? When is it EVER OK to follow people around?! Seriously?
I started planning and thinking how lovely it would be to go to a spa, be naked and relaxed and now I am full of doubt. If harrassment is what I have to look forward to then there is hardly any point going to all the trouble of getting there! And this literally when my friends had to leave another naturist place just a few days ago after barely 40 minutes because they were feeling unsafe. It is as if a large number of men who attend naturist places wish to have the places only to themselves and are determined to force women to leave - because that is the atmosphere that my friends have been greeted with and I have experienced numerous times at Rio's. I had to be constantly alert and protect myself from predatory behaviour and I am really not sure that I am ready to have to do that right now. What a disappointment!
I wouldn't say that was our experience at all there. The spa and the play areas/rest rooms are on different floors so if you're not interested in that element you don't have to go up there. The spa we felt was very relaxing and enjoyable. Yes the men do look at you, but for us everyone was friendly, engaged in polite conversation and I didn't feel uncomfortable at all despite going on a day where we were heavily outnumbered by men.
Up in the restrooms there was some loitering going on, we had one man who was a bit keen that we didn't want to join us but went away after we said no.
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Thank you, this is very helpful |
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"I had just been considering going with a friend - and now after reading this very thread I am not so sure based on comments from those who seem to have recently participated or intend to go. "If you don't get what you're after", "it will encourage more play less hanging around", "shame that couples sometimes feel uncomfortable when ... followed around". I'm sorry, what? When is it EVER OK to follow people around?! Seriously?
I started planning and thinking how lovely it would be to go to a spa, be naked and relaxed and now I am full of doubt. If harrassment is what I have to look forward to then there is hardly any point going to all the trouble of getting there! And this literally when my friends had to leave another naturist place just a few days ago after barely 40 minutes because they were feeling unsafe. It is as if a large number of men who attend naturist places wish to have the places only to themselves and are determined to force women to leave - because that is the atmosphere that my friends have been greeted with and I have experienced numerous times at Rio's. I had to be constantly alert and protect myself from predatory behaviour and I am really not sure that I am ready to have to do that right now. What a disappointment!
I had been at BGHS twice before during the day, as a single woman. I can’t say I ever felt unsafe, as there is always staff around and they have a zero tolerance policy, but yes, it is annoying that fully grown men follow you everywhere when you just want to have a soak to relieve stress and in my case aching muscles following marathon training. They start talking to you whennI clearly did not want to talk, I just wanted to relax!
However, this weekend I was there with a male friend and the experience is soooooo different! It is light, relaxed, wonderful. Other couples just do their own thing or they chat if you talk to them... my friend wouldn’t shut up. capacity is also very reduced so only 4 people or 2 bubbles in each jacuzzi or steam room/sauna etc, so it’s more relaxed. I think this was the best experience for me. The problem is, of course, finding someone to go with if I want to go regularly...
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Thank you for sharing this. I suppose I can always ask the staff members to deal with creeps, the problem of course is that I shouldn't have to in the first place - as you mention, having your relaxing mood ruined is the whole problem. But at least knowing how good the staff are at dealing with harrassment helps. |
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We love it, very chilled.
Once a bit of single guy hassle that taught us a lesson. Guy asked Rachel if she wanted to play, and rather than say "no" and be rude, she said "maybe later".
Lesson learned.
The guy then kept interrupting us and following us like a puppy and asking "are you ready yet?" 
So now, we're a little blunter. |
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
"I had just been considering going with a friend - and now after reading this very thread I am not so sure based on comments from those who seem to have recently participated or intend to go. "If you don't get what you're after", "it will encourage more play less hanging around", "shame that couples sometimes feel uncomfortable when ... followed around". I'm sorry, what? When is it EVER OK to follow people around?! Seriously?
I started planning and thinking how lovely it would be to go to a spa, be naked and relaxed and now I am full of doubt. If harrassment is what I have to look forward to then there is hardly any point going to all the trouble of getting there! And this literally when my friends had to leave another naturist place just a few days ago after barely 40 minutes because they were feeling unsafe. It is as if a large number of men who attend naturist places wish to have the places only to themselves and are determined to force women to leave - because that is the atmosphere that my friends have been greeted with and I have experienced numerous times at Rio's. I had to be constantly alert and protect myself from predatory behaviour and I am really not sure that I am ready to have to do that right now. What a disappointment!
I had been at BGHS twice before during the day, as a single woman. I can’t say I ever felt unsafe, as there is always staff around and they have a zero tolerance policy, but yes, it is annoying that fully grown men follow you everywhere when you just want to have a soak to relieve stress and in my case aching muscles following marathon training. They start talking to you whennI clearly did not want to talk, I just wanted to relax!
However, this weekend I was there with a male friend and the experience is soooooo different! It is light, relaxed, wonderful. Other couples just do their own thing or they chat if you talk to them... my friend wouldn’t shut up. capacity is also very reduced so only 4 people or 2 bubbles in each jacuzzi or steam room/sauna etc, so it’s more relaxed. I think this was the best experience for me. The problem is, of course, finding someone to go with if I want to go regularly...
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I hope you're able to find someone to go regularly with. I agree it's quite a different feeling when it's couples only.
Before the pandemic, I used to go regularly on Saturdays with a friend (now sadly unavailable). We used to like to stay for the afternoon and evening when it was all one session. Before the single guys had to leave, we pretty much stuck together like glue in case she received unwanted attention. After that, it felt so much more relaxed that we didn't need to worry about always doing exactly the same thing together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi all, we are going on Sunday afternoon / evening. Really looking forward to our visit. Intend to take our camper, is there any suitable places to park up nearby? |
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We only ever go at weekends, in normal times early in the afternoon. Then spend all day using the spa until the singles leave. It's far more relaxed after 6 but we've never really had any issues the rest of the time. |
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By *andm300Man
over a year ago
guildford |
"Hi all, we are going on Sunday afternoon / evening. Really looking forward to our visit. Intend to take our camper, is there any suitable places to park up nearby? "
I often see campers parked a couple of miles away at the racecourse, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have booked fir today and will be there after 14:00 Looking forward to talk to single ladies or straight couples. I will have my massage oils and massage tools with me. |
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