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By *ndrew-L OP Man
over a year ago
Crouch End London |
Hi- relatively new to the scene and very slowly starting to dip my toe in- just interested to know what are the best north London swinging clubs for daytime activities to go to after COVID restrictions are lifted? - getting somewhat desperate...... ... .. . |
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"Hi- relatively new to the scene and very slowly starting to dip my toe in- just interested to know what are the best north London swinging clubs for daytime activities to go to after COVID restrictions are lifted? - getting somewhat desperate...... ... .. ."
There is no way that the word desperate makes you sound attractive.
Have you read any of the forums - specifically the London and the Clubs one - all you want to know is there? |
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"I am being honest but point taken"
At 62 you'll struggle to get any interest and going to a club can be a crushing experience. You can be charming and pleasant and funny but when it comes to finding a play partner it will be hard - unless you come across a greedy girl scenario where you may get a chance, but even this isn't guaranteed
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over a year ago
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"I am being honest but point taken
At 62 you'll struggle to get any interest and going to a club can be a crushing experience. You can be charming and pleasant and funny but when it comes to finding a play partner it will be hard - unless you come across a greedy girl scenario where you may get a chance, but even this isn't guaranteed
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I am sorry but what you are saying is not true. It may surprise you but older people do get the chance to play in clubs. It is important to be nice and friendly and things can happen. |
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"I am being honest but point taken
At 62 you'll struggle to get any interest and going to a club can be a crushing experience. You can be charming and pleasant and funny but when it comes to finding a play partner it will be hard - unless you come across a greedy girl scenario where you may get a chance, but even this isn't guaranteed
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We very much disagree with this - based on our experiences across a number of clubs
Of course very much depends on whether your “charming, pleasant and funny” aligns with others perceptions of you 
Single gents - can have a great day - and can enable others to do the same
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"I am being honest but point taken
At 62 you'll struggle to get any interest and going to a club can be a crushing experience. You can be charming and pleasant and funny but when it comes to finding a play partner it will be hard - unless you come across a greedy girl scenario where you may get a chance, but even this isn't guaranteed
What an appalling thing to say... he has just as much likely good of playing as the next guy.. and contrary to what you obviously think, being charming, pleasant and funny, is ABSOLUTELY the best way to find a play partner!
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By *edhead72Man
over a year ago
Cheltenham and Ashby |
As a mature single male I’ve had some of the most exhilarating experiences, met the nicest of people and had so much fun at clubs.
I think expect little, be sociable, respectful and allow things to unfold at the pace of others.
You know it’s great fun just to chat and make new friends too |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Hi- relatively new to the scene and very slowly starting to dip my toe in- just interested to know what are the best north London swinging clubs for daytime activities to go to after COVID restrictions are lifted? - getting somewhat desperate...... ... .. ."
. Unless there are London clubs I don’t know off you maybe in for a disappointment.Near Alexandria Palace station we have Our Place 4 Fun ( OP4F ) and near Liverpool Street / Aldgate you have Le Boudoir both are members only clubs so you have to apply and be accepted.OP4F opens at 10.00 pm and Le Boudoir opens at about 9.00 - 9.30 pm.As you are looking for daytime this is what I mean by you are in for disappointment.However Rios spa near Kentish Town underground station is open if I remember correctly 11.00 am through to 7.00 am.It can be hit and miss for a single guy but if you go with the attitude no expectations no disappointments and enjoy the facilities then you may have a pleasant afternoon.Near Heathrow airport there is Kestrels spa from 10.00 am until 5.00 pm and some evenings from 6.30 pm it becomes AbFabs I went once to Kestrel whilst they were still working on it it has a amazing swimming pool and cinema room. I am not aware of any other clubs or spa in London so apologies if I have missed any out.
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By *m A FuckerMan
over a year ago
kingswood,surrey/leysdown kent |
"Hi- relatively new to the scene and very slowly starting to dip my toe in- just interested to know what are the best north London swinging clubs for daytime activities to go to after COVID restrictions are lifted? - getting somewhat desperate...... ... .. .. Unless there are London clubs I don’t know off you maybe in for a disappointment.Near Alexandria Palace station we have Our Place 4 Fun ( OP4F ) and near Liverpool Street / Aldgate you have Le Boudoir both are members only clubs so you have to apply and be accepted.OP4F opens at 10.00 pm and Le Boudoir opens at about 9.00 - 9.30 pm.As you are looking for daytime this is what I mean by you are in for disappointment.However Rios spa near Kentish Town underground station is open if I remember correctly 11.00 am through to 7.00 am.It can be hit and miss for a single guy but if you go with the attitude no expectations no disappointments and enjoy the facilities then you may have a pleasant afternoon.Near Heathrow airport there is Kestrels spa from 10.00 am until 5.00 pm and some evenings from 6.30 pm it becomes AbFabs I went once to Kestrel whilst they were still working on it it has a amazing swimming pool and cinema room. I am not aware of any other clubs or spa in London so apologies if I have missed any out."
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Op you might be better trying to make some connections on here so that you have people to meet up with when restrictions are lifted. There is truth in all of the advice you’ve been given above. An older, single, inexperienced guy is unlikely to find it easy to find sex in a club and that can be disappointing. Throw desperation into the mix and that’ll reduce your chances further I’m afraid. There are also older guys that have a great time, so do you might have a great time.
I’d consider what you’re on here for. If you’re looking to meet some like minded people, make some connections and see where it leads, great. If you’re really DESPERATE for sex and are really just looking for someone/anyone to empty your balls for you, then maybe a business transaction would be more appropriate. That might not be what your looking for, but your post does suggest that.
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"Op you might be better trying to make some connections on here so that you have people to meet up with when restrictions are lifted. There is truth in all of the advice you’ve been given above. An older, single, inexperienced guy is unlikely to find it easy to find sex in a club and that can be disappointing. Throw desperation into the mix and that’ll reduce your chances further I’m afraid. There are also older guys that have a great time, so do you might have a great time.
I’d consider what you’re on here for. If you’re looking to meet some like minded people, make some connections and see where it leads, great. If you’re really DESPERATE for sex and are really just looking for someone/anyone to empty your balls for you, then maybe a business transaction would be more appropriate. That might not be what your looking for, but your post does suggest that.
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By *ndrew-L OP Man
over a year ago
Crouch End London |
Hi I would to thank everyone who took the trouble to respond to my post, it has been quite illuminating & all advice is gratefully received.
In hind sight my choice of words at the end of my post was somewhat misleading. In my mind -getting somewhat desperate referred to the ongoing covid restrictions being cooped up all the time. To be clear I am not desperate for sex, I have been on this site for over a year and have not chosen to meet with anyone so far but am thinking about clubs so all advice welcome.
Again thank you all for your comments
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just admit that you do not know what you are talking about when it comes to going to clubs and what the real atmosphere is."
Sorry this is an answer to the clueless The Ringmaster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am being honest but point taken
At 62 you'll struggle to get any interest and going to a club can be a crushing experience. You can be charming and pleasant and funny but when it comes to finding a play partner it will be hard - unless you come across a greedy girl scenario where you may get a chance, but even this isn't guaranteed
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Thats not true.
My club partner is in his 60's
Just because you think someone struggle doesn't mean they will.
Op when they are open, give it a go. |
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At 62 you'll struggle to get any interest
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Total rubbish. I'm over 60 and also run daytime parties in South London and many folks over 60 attend and have a great time.
As they say age is only a number. Attitude, personality and manners will be more attractive in a club/party situation than age. |
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By *lovisMan
over a year ago
Twickenham |
"Just admit that you do not know what you are talking about when it comes to going to clubs and what the real atmosphere is.
Sorry this is an answer to the clueless The Ringmaster."
Funny - I thought he was spot on. In my years I've seen many over 60s limited to being key janglers at clubs . Agreed that from time to time they might get involved with another older couple. |
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By *horty4Man
over a year ago
london |
"About clubs if you arw single unless you are meeting someone there.
Yiur experience will be miserable "
Not for me, perhaps it reflects something about your approach? (For the avoidance of doubt, I’m. A 52 year old short guy. Carrying a bit too much weight and balding. You dont have to be an Adonis to have fun) |
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"About clubs if you arw single unless you are meeting someone there.
Yiur experience will be miserable
Not for me, perhaps it reflects something about your approach? (For the avoidance of doubt, I’m. A 52 year old short guy. Carrying a bit too much weight and balding. You dont have to be an Adonis to have fun)"
Some people are more sensitive to rejection and don't feel confident enough to push themselves forward. There are those people who have no apparent qualms and just put themselves up for fun and are unaffected when rejected.
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By *ndrew-L OP Man
over a year ago
Crouch End London |
Hi Dave- thanks for responding,I would be interested to hear about your parties when Covid ends
“Thats not true.
My club partner is in his 60's
Just because you think someone struggle doesn't mean they will.
Op when they are open, give it a go. “ |
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"Hi Dave- thanks for responding,I would be interested to hear about your parties when Covid ends
“Thats not true.
My club partner is in his 60's
Just because you think someone struggle doesn't mean they will.
Op when they are open, give it a go. “"
Probably the main thing you need to know about his parties is that they are bi |
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It all depends what clubs you go to. There are some clubs that seem to cater for younger people (30-ties/40-ties) and clubs where everyone is welcome. As a couple, we don't look for single men to join us, but Devil has gone to clubs with her (now former, unfortunately) FWB, who is in his 60ties but who could keep up with her much better than younger men.
In the club, nobody can tell how old you are. It's all about being polite, friendly, respectful, non-pushy and in the right place at the right time.
Don't ever go to a swingers club expecting sex- unless you go with a partner. |
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By *oodsyMan
over a year ago
tonbridge |
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At 62 you'll struggle to get any interest
I have been to Dave's parties many times. Completely decadent fun. All ages, sexualities and ethnicities are welcome to have fun. No ageism there at all. They are daytime parties and I'd recommend those for the single guy. Night time parties tend to be for couples wanting to meet couples. 226 in Sutton is the place to go. So much fun to be had and no clickyness whichever party you go to. Google houseofpoitier when all this is done.
Total rubbish. I'm over 60 and also run daytime parties in South London and many folks over 60 attend and have a great time.
As they say age is only a number. Attitude, personality and manners will be more attractive in a club/party situation than age. "
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I have been to Dave's parties many times. Completely decadent fun. All ages, sexualities and ethnicities are welcome to have fun. No ageism there at all. They are daytime parties and I'd recommend those for the single guy. Night time parties tend to be for couples wanting to meet couples. 226 in Sutton is the place to go. So much fun to be had and no clickyness whichever party you go to. Google houseofpoitier when all this is done.
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Thanks Graham, Let's hope parties can start again after Easter. I know from the messages I've received you aren't the only one missing all the fun. |
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By *asIsaCouple
over a year ago
harrow |
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I have been to Dave's parties many times. Completely decadent fun. All ages, sexualities and ethnicities are welcome to have fun. No ageism there at all. They are daytime parties and I'd recommend those for the single guy. Night time parties tend to be for couples wanting to meet couples. 226 in Sutton is the place to go. So much fun to be had and no clickyness whichever party you go to. Google houseofpoitier when all this is done.
Thanks Graham, Let's hope parties can start again after Easter. I know from the messages I've received you aren't the only one missing all the fun."
After Easter?! |
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After Easter?!"
The parties will start again when it is legal to hold indoor events of 50+ people without social distancing.
At this moment in time it's impossible to know when that will happen but I hope with the continued successful vaccine roll out, the upcoming summer wedding season and the dire situation felt by theatres and music venues there will be pressure on government after Easter to allow larger indoor events |
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By *asIsaCouple
over a year ago
harrow |
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After Easter?!
The parties will start again when it is legal to hold indoor events of 50+ people without social distancing.
At this moment in time it's impossible to know when that will happen but I hope with the continued successful vaccine roll out, the upcoming summer wedding season and the dire situation felt by theatres and music venues there will be pressure on government after Easter to allow larger indoor events "
Zero chance of social distancing restrictions being lifted in 2021. |
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Zero chance of social distancing restrictions being lifted in 2021. "
That is your opinion, but no sensible person would put the probability at zero.
There may still be restrictions in place at the end of the year but I don't think strict social distancing will be one of them. |
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By *asIsaCouple
over a year ago
harrow |
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Zero chance of social distancing restrictions being lifted in 2021.
That is your opinion, but no sensible person would put the probability at zero.
There may still be restrictions in place at the end of the year but I don't think strict social distancing will be one of them. "
There we go, no debate - straight to the insult about a person not being sensible and then you go on to talk about ' strict social distancing' which means what?! Either we will be able to have sex with stranger in clubs or wherever or we won't. I think you will agree(as the sensible person that you are) that requires the complete end of all social distancing rules which by all accounts will not be removed in 2021 . So yes, I think there is zero chance of that happening - that's my opinion . You have yours which you are entitled to and I wouldn't want to suggest you aren't a sensible person! |
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"I am being honest but point taken
At 62 you'll struggle to get any interest and going to a club can be a crushing experience. You can be charming and pleasant and funny but when it comes to finding a play partner it will be hard - unless you come across a greedy girl scenario where you may get a chance, but even this isn't guaranteed
I am sorry but what you are saying is not true. It may surprise you but older people do get the chance to play in clubs. It is important to be nice and friendly and things can happen."
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I completely agree , I prefer mature when I’m in a club x |
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