New gf isn't into swinging (yet) but has said she likes the idea of a club but only to have fun with me. The idea of others watching turns her on.
Whats the protocols as I've never been to a club and just assumed it was a free for all. She doesnt want anyone involved so how do you keep it just between the two?
Hoping I can get her past the first step and then onto more but don't want to frighten her off in the initial stages |
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Well it absolutely is not a free for all in any swinging club.
Consent is sexy.
Many clubs have rooms with big windows for exhibition/voyeurism but in any club no one should touch or join in without consent.
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Not sure where you have heard its a free for all? If someone has genuinely told you that then they are having you on 
Every club I've been to is like going to a normal pub/club, you talk to people like you would normally on a night on & if you are lucky you might get asked if you want to go into a room with them. Some rooms have windows to watch but you'd never just jump in playing without being asked. |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Yes, clubs are not a free-for-all. The facilities will vary depending on the club, but it's not uncommon to have completely private rooms, lockable rooms with windows, and open rooms for those who like others to join in.
Even in the open rooms the rule is no touching without permission. Occasionally someone will try, because there's always one who thinks rules are for other people, but this is not normal and not tolerated. At least, that's how it is in the club that I know, and it's what I hear about others.
Consent is rule 1 in any club. No means no, and you are not expected to do anything.
I don't know Hull. There's one club there, I think. Hu9? When they're open again, it's worth getting in touch with them. There might be others within range if you're willing to travel. Hopefully when the clubs are open again, fab will bring back the club reviews page. It's worth seeing what people have to say |
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