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If clubs dont open for months.. what are your ideas to carry on meeting when its possible to do so.
As much as I hope they will be open maybe October time. It's unlikely.
I know many regular club goers from various clubs that like me clubs and the friends their were the backbone of your sexual and social life.
What plans do you have... how are you coping x |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"If clubs dont open for months.. what are your ideas to carry on meeting when its possible to do so.
As much as I hope they will be open maybe October time. It's unlikely.
I know many regular club goers from various clubs that like me clubs and the friends their were the backbone of your sexual and social life.
What plans do you have... how are you coping x "
Luckily I have alot of friends that will happily have me over for drinks so that will be my social life for the coming months. |
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Apart from our annual fortnight of debauchery in Cap d'Agde we were strictly clubs only.
At the moment we have no concrete plans at all as we think the end of this is so far in the future.
The only thing I can say is that if it is deemed too dangerous for clubs to open, then we certainly won't be reverting to private meets.
When this ends (if it ever does) we will then evaluate which will be the best way forward.
We probably will go back to clubs at some point but we won't be beating a path to the door on day one.
We may decide that private meets (much smaller numbers) will be less risky and go down that road.
What is certain though is that we will be giving the larger clubs (100/200 people) a wide berth for a good while and Mrs H may have had her last gangbang for a very long time. |
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"If clubs dont open for months.. what are your ideas to carry on meeting when its possible to do so.
As much as I hope they will be open maybe October time. It's unlikely.
I know many regular club goers from various clubs that like me clubs and the friends their were the backbone of your sexual and social life.
What plans do you have... how are you coping x
Luckily I have alot of friends that will happily have me over for drinks so that will be my social life for the coming months. "
see socially once we can I will be fine but sexually I wont be as its group meets I like with the occasional exception |
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"If clubs dont open for months.. what are your ideas to carry on meeting when its possible to do so.
As much as I hope they will be open maybe October time. It's unlikely.
I know many regular club goers from various clubs that like me clubs and the friends their were the backbone of your sexual and social life.
What plans do you have... how are you coping x "
We tend to only meet at clubs and although we are patient for them to reopen we will certainly consider private meets when we feel it is safe for us to do so.
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"If clubs dont open for months.. what are your ideas to carry on meeting when its possible to do so.
As much as I hope they will be open maybe October time. It's unlikely.
I know many regular club goers from various clubs that like me clubs and the friends their were the backbone of your sexual and social life.
What plans do you have... how are you coping x
Luckily I have alot of friends that will happily have me over for drinks so that will be my social life for the coming months. see socially once we can I will be fine but sexually I wont be as its group meets I like with the occasional exception "
Yeah, you might have to just do one on one needs with your fwb for awhile. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"If clubs dont open for months.. what are your ideas to carry on meeting when its possible to do so.
As much as I hope they will be open maybe October time. It's unlikely.
I know many regular club goers from various clubs that like me clubs and the friends their were the backbone of your sexual and social life.
What plans do you have... how are you coping x
Luckily I have alot of friends that will happily have me over for drinks so that will be my social life for the coming months. see socially once we can I will be fine but sexually I wont be as its group meets I like with the occasional exception
Yeah, you might have to just do one on one needs with your fwb for awhile. "
Meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Completely frustrated to be honest, but what else can we do? Better to be safe for all.
Really miss my local club - chameleons and cant wait for it to be open again. Even to chill, relax and unwind.
If we go past summer, we’ll miss the sun deck as well 
Thought the virus wasn’t able to be sustained in hot weather? Maybe my lack of knowledge here, but end of year seems to far off!!!
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"If clubs dont open for months.. what are your ideas to carry on meeting when its possible to do so.
As much as I hope they will be open maybe October time. It's unlikely.
I know many regular club goers from various clubs that like me clubs and the friends their were the backbone of your sexual and social life.
What plans do you have... how are you coping x
Luckily I have alot of friends that will happily have me over for drinks so that will be my social life for the coming months. see socially once we can I will be fine but sexually I wont be as its group meets I like with the occasional exception
Yeah, you might have to just do one on one needs with your fwb for awhile.
Meets "
it's not quite doing it for me. Lol as soon as they lift it I'll have to do some thing. And unfortunately my club buddy is a bit far away even if I could visit currently x |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Completely frustrated to be honest, but what else can we do? Better to be safe for all.
Really miss my local club - chameleons and cant wait for it to be open again. Even to chill, relax and unwind.
If we go past summer, we’ll miss the sun deck as well
Thought the virus wasn’t able to be sustained in hot weather? Maybe my lack of knowledge here, but end of year seems to far off!!!
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That's not true, the virus has thrived in hot countries too.
I'm also missing chams, the sun terrace and the jacuzzi and my pervy group of friends |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I used to only meet at clubs, I'm hoping that they will only open when it's safe to do so and I will be back there.
I don't really know what to do in the meantime ( when safe again) as I haven't found one on one or private meets suit me, clubs are definitely what seem to work best for me as I'm I'm mostly there for the social side, really enjoyed being around such liberated people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm missing chams so much , not just for sex n play but it's been my social life for so many years now have made so many friends that I'm missing terribly, once things relax il be more open to private meets as iv always gone in favour of clubs previously.....although I have my room booked for aug bank hol beach party so heres hoping x |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I'm missing chams so much , not just for sex n play but it's been my social life for so many years now have made so many friends that I'm missing terribly, once things relax il be more open to private meets as iv always gone in favour of clubs previously.....although I have my room booked for aug bank hol beach party so heres hoping x"
I've got my room booked too, I hope it's open. I've got one booked for NYE too, I'll be keeping my fingers crossed.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer club meets, allows safety and everyone can be themselves. i.e at chams you dress down / females may wear clothing, but in general where all the same. Not what you have, monetary wise etc but the basics of who you are.
Also if your not attracted to someone it’s easyier, than if you had arranged something like a bar meet etc.
For females I think it’s safer, yes you still get idiots at clubs, but your safety is better than a random meet? I think anyway.
I also like the club for social and chilling side, if something happened great, if not? Well no big deal. Just not your day.
Really miss the club scene at the moment. |
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Yep. We have only used clubs. For the last ten years.
And so it maybe time to try something else. When lockdown is eased of course. A hotel meet with a couple we fancy or a couple of guys for me (hubby can watch).
Who knows. Frustrating times. Hopefully recovery to a new normal has begun and Clubs will one day open again.
Lots of love to Chams, VA & the Club formerly known as SX.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Frustrating for us, we were regulars and only met there. We'll take stock once they're open again, for now maybe trusted friends for drinks and see how we all feel.
Definitely won't be playing with strangers until a vaccine is here, not a chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to only meet at clubs, I'm hoping that they will only open when it's safe to do so and I will be back there.
I don't really know what to do in the meantime ( when safe again) as I haven't found one on one or private meets suit me, clubs are definitely what seem to work best for me as I'm I'm mostly there for the social side, really enjoyed being around such liberated people."
Agree with you 100%.
Clubs are the best way, banter ECT, as one on one meets can be so disappointing due to peeps posting photos that look nothing like them in the flesh, at clubs you can still be polite and walk away without any drama.
Hope you're keeping well beautiful xx
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"Yep. We have only used clubs. For the last ten years.
And so it maybe time to try something else. When lockdown is eased of course. A hotel meet with a couple we fancy or a couple of guys for me (hubby can watch).
Who knows. Frustrating times. Hopefully recovery to a new normal has begun and Clubs will one day open again.
Lots of love to Chams, VA & the Club formerly known as SX. "
Ditto for us, hope all the Clubs survive  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We too are really missing the clubs, both for fun and because of our friends and the social scene.
Like you all, we hope the club scene will eventually bounce back, but this will take sometime too be back to normal
We will probably meet with previous trusted play partners or very small (known) groups when things start to settle down initially.
Just not sure when yet 
Stay safe peeps x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was a few yards away from Chams the other day whilst shopping in Darlo. I looked up at the window knowing that it’s the round room and it’s empty, no fun going on atall. Very weird scary times we are living right now.
I just hope it does reopen sometime in the future |
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"We too are really missing the clubs, both for fun and because of our friends and the social scene.
Like you all, we hope the club scene will eventually bounce back, but this will take sometime too be back to normal
We will probably meet with previous trusted play partners or very small (known) groups when things start to settle down initially.
Just not sure when yet
Stay safe peeps x"
I'm still confused by what people mean by "trusted" partners, people seem to be thinking like STDs, but anyone can catch this at work or in a supermarket the day before you have sex with them without them realising that they have. If you're avoiding casual sex because of the coronavirus, are you also avoiding hugging friends and family and going to anywhere crowded or on public transport and if so, for how long? |
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"We just will be keeping safe and not meeting anyone at all, no socials, no meets, nothing.
Going without sex for a few months won't kill you, covid will. "
easy for couples to be fair, you have each other. And covid wont definately kill anyone.. same as many other things wont. Its here to stay by the look of things, so will have to work around things.
Anyway this thread was for people like me who previously met in clubs only... and how we adjust when we can meet again without said clubs.. as we will be allowed to meet long before clubs are open I'm sure.
I am still hoping to be at chams for august bank holiday.. I'll cross my fingers and hope .. but we shall see.
Missing chilling and this recent good weather had me really missing the sun terrace too.
Had got myself all planned up for a townhouse visit too... and of course my local the attic
Had costumes ready for parties x |
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We only do club meets so for us if its not safe to meet at a club then we won't be meeting
Can't see the point in planning a meet outside a club as will be just as risky to be fair as anyone can have or be carrying the virus
So for us we will be waiting |
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We tended to have our greatest successes at clubs, and they’re good for meeting the first time. I don’t think we’ll just be pitching up at someone’s house for the first meet. So probably meet people we’ve met before at their houses, but not meet new people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Considering that when clubs are allowed to open people will already be out and about in ordinary life couple that with the fact a high % of people with covid 19 are asymptomatic then how will you tell if a person is infected ? be it a trusted friend or play mate, a neighbbour, fellow travellers on transport etc ? The virus has spread to far and infected too many for it to be eliminated now without total global immunisation with a vaccination. So we will be visiting clubs again when they open. Cant see the point in living life in fear and being nervous of every person who gets closer than 2 meters or so, what about the person who coughs or sneezes suddenly near you ? Will you run in fear ? There are worse virus and diseases out there we put up with and used a flimsy latex screen to try and protect against but accepted the risks.. |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
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Clubs won't be open for many months in my opinion so the scene will move underground with private parties at homes and one to one meets resuming. Risks will be taken but ultimately you can't suppress basic instincts. |
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Hotels are still open, previous club contacts will just convert into private parties for a small cohort of people.
We have always had private meetings on the side but often 1:1
We are just scaling that up.
As above basic instincts always prevail.
Sx |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
I use myself as a example.As a single guy the wrong side of 50 that can’t accommodate OP4F & Rios spa are important too me as I enjoy the social side as well as the physical side as well. I think there will be small gatherings at someone home or a hotel of people that know each other and have met before.Hopefully the clubs and spas will be able to access what government help is available and stay in business. |
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By *asIsaCouple
over a year ago
harrow |
"We tended to have our greatest successes at clubs, and they’re good for meeting the first time. I don’t think we’ll just be pitching up at someone’s house for the first meet. So probably meet people we’ve met before at their houses, but not meet new people. "
So what will be the difference between meeting people you've met before and new meets , if you are referring to the virus? |
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We have done all of our playing in Agde, foam parties, beach and sauna. The only way the lifestyle can safely start again in the short term, will be if tests to show that you have had the virus work. You produce ID, test and get in. If there is a vaccine things will be able to return more quickly and anyone claiming to be vaccinated will be at their own risk. We think most of us are aware of STIs and know how to handle medical risks.
Don't despair, but play very safe for now |
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I don’t have a clue love the club scene and really missing going to my 2 favourites, Liberty and Mamba. Hopefully some sort of home test might be available in the coming months. Stay safe and healthy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We miss the clubs for the social aspect more than anything else. Being surrounded by likeminded people is very enjoyable.
I don’t know how soon we will return to them when they reopen but we will do home meets when it’s safe to do so. These will be with a couple we have already met.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only ever really meet at clubs so bit gutted at the situation. That said, it is what it is so until there’s a vaccine, some way of testing or we get it and - maybe - get some immunity then that’s us done with swinging really.
Understand those who say you can’t live your life in fear and fully agree. We wouldn’t just a become hermits and would socialise in other scenarios when the time comes but, for us at least, the risk of passing it onto a loved one just because we wanted some action is too much.
I’m sure some people will say that if you’re prepared to go to the shops, meet friends (after lockdown), go on holiday etc then you equally run a chance of passing it on and you do. But ultimately those are the things that are the fabric of our lives and are the areas we would have to be prepared to accept there’s some risk, taking the same risks for a bit of NSA doesn’t stack up for us. Each to their own and it’s a personal choice but for us right now, we’re out of the game indefinitely.
Stay safe everyone xx |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
I only ever met in clubs unless I knew someone really well then I might meet privately. But those were very few and far.
Not sure if I'll be back in the clubs when they open for a while after.
One thing that I've realised with being in lockdown, although I have had to carry on working and I've had a fab friend recuperating at mine is that I miss having someone special in my life, so maybe time to look for something more meaningful than a play at a club xx |
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We love the club scene home and abroad and also hold parties but of course not at present. We have a wide circle of friends who we keep in contact with, so I guess it's going to mad once it's safe for everyone. |
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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago
Clevedon |
We only did clubs as a couple. Not going as much the last couple of years. In light of what's happening as a few posts ago said, I think could well be the end of the scene for us.was a bit of fun for us but as getting older find we satisfy each other, but accept you're lucky if you are a couple and not single. Not sure what's ahead going forward. |
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"If clubs dont open for months.. what are your ideas to carry on meeting when its possible to do so.
As much as I hope they will be open maybe October time. It's unlikely.
I know many regular club goers from various clubs that like me clubs and the friends their were the backbone of your sexual and social life.
What plans do you have... how are you coping x "
As we've discussed I've had several uncomfortable 1:1 meets so much prefer clubs, also there are the social, voyeuristic & spa elements to club meets. If it was just a quick leg-over I was looking for that could be arranged but swinging is so much more than that to me, much more.
So what will I do?
Hopefully some of my friends from the scene will be having social and/or play meets outside the clubs before they reopen.
I don't know what I'll do otherwise, probably wait it out.
What this situation has affirmed is that I miss the social side of the scene more than the play side.
As a single (not FAB single) person living alone I have barely spoken to a soul outside of work calls for many weeks, that is what is hurting the most, I miss laughter & smiles. |
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By *andrxCouple
over a year ago
bedford |
For the past 5-6 years we only used clubs (jaydees) with the exception of swingfields .
Ironically just before the lockdown we had built up a great relationship with a couple and a single guy we have known for quite a while .
R had even arranged a solo meet with him (how naughty  ) . Then LOCKDOWN  . That's what you call bad timing !!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As another single, I’ve missed the clubs but it’s the social side and being able to mooch about in a relaxed atmosphere that I’ve missed the most, so I’ll probably put more time and effort into something more personal now.... As even before this virus, the clubs where being over run by single men and even though I do miss the banter am very unlikely to return for quite some time and meet privately if I think it’s safe to do so.
But am under no illusions this virus will chance our way of life/living for years to come |
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We’ve only ever done club meets; and mainly when we’ve been on trips away rather than in the UK as well so we’ve been doubly thwarted by this!! Obviously remaining hopeful for club reopening maybe in the Autumn, but when it’s appropriate must admit we are considering some form of private meetings...
Don’t think it will be same as clubs though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes we were club only meets as we felt it was the safest way and great to meet more than 1 couple. Not 100% sure if we would change this and will just have to ride it out, but we cannot wait for that to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are staying club meets only, so waiting until they reopen before any possibility of a meet. Plus it was our social nights out without playing just headed to the Attic and had a right laugh  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like you Cali one on one meets don't do it for me.
I've only met in clubs for about 3 years now.
With it looking like some clubs not being able to reopen this year, if at all, I've decided to call it a day. |
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"Like you Cali one on one meets don't do it for me.
I've only met in clubs for about 3 years now.
With it looking like some clubs not being able to reopen this year, if at all, I've decided to call it a day."
Sadly I fear that more and more people will star to think like that.
Apart from at Cap d'Agde (which we just regard as one big swinger club anyway) we have been 99% clubs only since the beginning. The odd private meet that we did in the very early days always made Mrs H feel uncomfortable and she really has a mental block on them now. But she loved the club scene.
Where do we go from here? Well we are certainly not calling it a day just yet, although when you get to a certain age time isn't really on our side.
We really hope that the clubs can survive this and we can eventually get back to something resembling how it was, but to be honest I'm not that confident.
I very much doubt that Mrs H will want to do private meets any time soon (if ever) so we are thinking that small private parties (on the principle of safety in small numbers) could be a way forward. Once we feel it is safe enough to do so of course.
However even that presents a problem as we have Mrs H's grown up son still living with us in Germany so we could only do that when in Spain.
I really think that getting our swinger life back on track is going to be akin to plaiting sawdust.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think small group private parties are going to be the new swinging scene for the foreseeable future until clubs can adapt.
This will not stop those of us from having some fun to escape these depressing times. We all need an escape ! |
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We mainly used clubs for our socialising and sex kicks. Since they've closed we've had to resort to gardening to work a sweat up!
We really feel for the owners of the clubs. How would they apply for the government funding? We are classed as liesure and hospitality where we work and looks like October may be a date we can start back. So how are the clubs going to claim any revenue or financial help during the lockdown and social distancing period?
The only way we can try and curb this C-19 situation is to sit tight and safe through the summer, so maybe we can be able to socialise around Xmas time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm really missing the clubs being open, I miss seeing my friends and making new ones. I really hope the clubs can get over this and open again in any way possible, even if only as pubs for a while, I'll still go. Aside from my fwb I only used the club to meet,for safety reasons mainly. And to that, when it's safe to meet again and if the clubs aren't open, then I shall only meet trusted established friends for sex.
I am missing the dressing up, the dressing down, being able to talk freely and without judgement, flirting with strangers, seeing my friends, having a laugh and maybe getting laid!
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