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Seriously if Fab don’t sort a 55’s-plus swingers room soon I recon they are going to miss a trick and someone will start a separate 55’s-plus site. It’s a business opportunity going begging isn’t it?  |
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"Any advice on contacting women as everyone blocked me after first msg or first face pic even if they wink or msh me first  "
Msg females with " Hi hows u? Thats all u can do! And females block after the first message because they arent interested in u! Blocking makes sure u cant re msg them its just easier that way!saves them from opening ur msg again! And females wink or msg u and decide ur not for me! ...we all have the choice to block/ ignore/ wink/ talk then change our minds.... |
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over a year ago
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Sorry i cant see any reason why you would want an over 50 s club. I certainly wouldnt join. I like to think i can chat to any intelligent person of any age. To be honest most conversations with 50 s plus is boring. No disrespect. |
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Why exclusive over 50s? I'm under 50 but approaching, and find people of any legal age attractive does not matter to me whether younger or older. I get maturity but those that are immature are easily ed out. I would not exclusify myself over that age, rather keep my mind open to all. |
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over a year ago
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"Great idea but just not for couples for singles too x i would welcome it .count me in lol  "
and me not far off 50 next year and we could make our own group? |
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"Yes it would be a good idea to have a chat room for over 50s and even younger swingers can still chat if they like older singles or couples "
You need that kind of flexibility at least. And age flexibilty too - late 40's as in 48, 49 is a huge time for people. Where do they fit? |
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over a year ago
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"Sorry i cant see any reason why you would want an over 50 s club. I certainly wouldnt join. I like to think i can chat to any intelligent person of any age. To be honest most conversations with 50 s plus is boring. No disrespect."
Though as you're in your 50s and 60s respectively you can't find every chat with that age group boring or it would be pretty dull for you both being together!
Even so, can understand from your perspective why you would think such a room wouldn't suit you but for a lot on this thread they'd love the idea, so for it to be an option would be beneficial to forum users in general? Plus it may direct those in your rooms who find uninteresting away from you?
In that vein I personally think an under 25s room would be a good idea as while I'd have no need to visit such a limiting room (and wouldn't be able to anyway) it would cut down on the txtspk, nonsense 3 word posts and people who signal they find something amusing by saying "Aha! Aha!" which to me is either an exclamation of surprise really or an 80s Scandinavian band with Morton Harket in it? 
Then a lot of the under 25s with a fully developed brain would just use the regular rooms anyway?
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Retirement age (or some euphemistic phrase) is a better idea for actual older people, and it doesn't have the problem of 50 to what?
Clearly over 50's is something some people would use and some people wouldn't go near with their barge pole. I'd just look at it for eye candy  |
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"Sorry i cant see any reason why you would want an over 50 s club. I certainly wouldnt join. I like to think i can chat to any intelligent person of any age. To be honest most conversations with 50 s plus is boring. No disrespect.
I agree young uns make my teeth itch
Though as you're in your 50s and 60s respectively you can't find every chat with that age group boring or it would be pretty dull for you both being together!
Even so, can understand from your perspective why you would think such a room wouldn't suit you but for a lot on this thread they'd love the idea, so for it to be an option would be beneficial to forum users in general? Plus it may direct those in your rooms who find uninteresting away from you?
In that vein I personally think an under 25s room would be a good idea as while I'd have no need to visit such a limiting room (and wouldn't be able to anyway) it would cut down on the txtspk, nonsense 3 word posts and people who signal they find something amusing by saying "Aha! Aha!" which to me is either an exclamation of surprise really or an 80s Scandinavian band with Morton Harket in it?
Then a lot of the under 25s with a fully developed brain would just use the regular rooms anyway?
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We agree that it would be nice to have age related forums xx w
We are now at an age when 20 and 30 ages look n message but to us nooooooooo our kids ages nnnnooooooo
So not just an over 50 but make it 20s, 30s, 40s, 50, 60, etc |
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"We agree that it would be nice to have age related forums xx w
We are now at an age when 20 and 30 ages look n message but to us nooooooooo our kids ages nnnnooooooo
So not just an over 50 but
make it 20s, 30s, 40s, 50, 60, etc "
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"We agree that it would be nice to have age related forums xx w
We are now at an age when 20 and 30 ages look n message but to us nooooooooo our kids ages nnnnooooooo
So not just an over 50 but make it 20s, 30s, 40s, 50, 60, etc "
If you use message filters to block the ages you don't want to receive messages from that will solve one of your problems. |
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Slightly disagree as it will:
1. divide the chatters
2. make each room smaller and less interesting/lively.
3. makes chat difficult across the age.
To compromise, maybe one room for the mature fabbers eg (Mature Lovers Room (age 55 and above)).
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"yes keep the kids out lol People especially guys will make fake profiles just so they can chat with mature cpls"
Im 53 and fiding more and more i only like women around 50 or above they seem to have an assurance about themself and a relaxed sexy ora |
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I think that mature experienced ladies of a certain age are far more sexy and alluring as their experiences and confidence is just such a turn on.
I also believe that they’re generally happy with themselves and know exactly what they’re looking for.
Just hot and sexy! |
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Would love an over 50s chatroom as now there are too many younger guys not on cam no profiles or photo .we know of a few people are over 50 and don't feel confident now putting cam on as getting pestered by all these single guys .
come on fab please a room for older chatters .
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It is a great chance wish someone would as we know couples left because of abuse and some have even been stalked after meeting too afraid now come on fab and put cams on .
it could be kids watching you no idea how old they are no photos or cams fake profiles
too .wish there was an over 50 chatroom honestly |
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over a year ago
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"Hi all, yes I would support an over 55s chat room for everybody."
I tried an over 50s forum page no one participated.
State of rooms of late hardly anyone in the rooms except directing of course. Numbers have gone down a lot. Then you get people wanting separate age groups altogether. Start a forum page first but no one will bother |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"Would love an over 50s chatroom as now there are too many younger guys not on cam no profiles or photo .we know of a few people are over 50 and don't feel confident now putting cam on as getting pestered by all these single guys .
come on fab please a room for older chatters .
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I've never understood why people are so worried about age so long as they are of legal age.
It's all no strings attached consentual fun so who cares. Ffs
Willing and able are all that sound matter. |
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over a year ago
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"I've never understood why people are so worried about age so long as they are of legal age.
It's all no strings attached consentual fun so who cares. Ffs
Willing and able are all that sound matter. "
Age matters to me. I couldn't have sex with somebody who is young enough to be my daughter. |
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No ..I think it is a good idea .Even though people ( and I am one of them btw) who feel they can easily chat and get on with younger women/ cples etc . There are some who can not and may even feel intimidated by all the fit ,toned youngsters out there etc . let's be honest there really are some things people of the same age group have in common in life and they are normally stepping stones to building contacts and friendships etc
When all said and done it's not just about the sex now is it !
For what it's worth I too feel like there is a ' golden' ( geddit?) Opportunity here for another site aimed at over 55 swingers and those who enjoy them . If that happens potential to lose some members from FAB I would say ? Perhaps someone needs to act quick before they lose out ? |
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"Not all older people want play with young single guys or young couples when we got kids older than they are .
just feel more at ease with older chatters is that too much too ask "
Again I've never understood why people think that just because their child is a certain age that it has anything to do with the age of those you play with. I suppose if it's a reminder of your kids if they where similar types of person at sort of time then maybe but age really doesn't define a person? I've played with very mature 22 year olds and totally immature 50+ year olds so it's not age.
Swinging is all about consentual no-strings-attached fun, in the moment, where we all have a great time and go home happy and anything else is something else.
I do respect people's personal preferences for the company they wish to meet and want to play with but I do not share these preferences as I love the diversity of swinging and the fact that it doesn't matter what you are like then you can be accepted so long as boundaries are respected. |
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"No ..I think it is a good idea .Even though people ( and I am one of them btw) who feel they can easily chat and get on with younger women/ cples etc . There are some who can not and may even feel intimidated by all the fit ,toned youngsters out there etc . let's be honest there really are some things people of the same age group have in common in life and they are normally stepping stones to building contacts and friendships etc
When all said and done it's not just about the sex now is it !
For what it's worth I too feel like there is a ' golden' ( geddit?) Opportunity here for another site aimed at over 55 swingers and those who enjoy them . If that happens potential to lose some members from FAB I would say ? Perhaps someone needs to act quick before they lose out ? "
There are several various sites already out there that allow people to set up groups and monitor members who join them. The site is not as all encompassing as Fab but it may be worth a browse to see if it works better for yourselves.
As it's not Fab the Fab police would get me if I mentioned names but these sites are not hidden so research it maybe? |
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"I've never understood why people are so worried about age so long as they are of legal age.
It's all no strings attached consentual fun so who cares. Ffs
Willing and able are all that sound matter. "
I don't think it's worry! For me I just don't find people around my kids age or younger attractive! Think it's spending years with that age group ... they would only have to say something that would remind me of my kids and that would be a turn off!
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"I've never understood why people are so worried about age so long as they are of legal age.
It's all no strings attached consentual fun so who cares. Ffs
Willing and able are all that sound matter.
I don't think it's worry! For me I just don't find people around my kids age or younger attractive! Think it's spending years with that age group ... they would only have to say something that would remind me of my kids and that would be a turn off!
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Preferences are obviously fine and if it's a constant reminder then I can understand you not wanting that.
I think I'm very lucky in that I am the way I am as the age thing is certainly common and particularly with mums I'd say.
I personally don't even need to be attracted to a lady that I'm playing with because if I can bring pleasure to a lady that wants pleasure then why wouldn't I? It's just a bit of fun at the end of the day. xxx
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"I've never understood why people are so worried about age so long as they are of legal age.
It's all no strings attached consentual fun so who cares. Ffs
Willing and able are all that sound matter.
I don't think it's worry! For me I just don't find people around my kids age or younger attractive! Think it's spending years with that age group ... they would only have to say something that would remind me of my kids and that would be a turn off!
Preferences are obviously fine and if it's a constant reminder then I can understand you not wanting that.
I think I'm very lucky in that I am the way I am as the age thing is certainly common and particularly with mums I'd say.
I personally don't even need to be attracted to a lady that I'm playing with because if I can bring pleasure to a lady that wants pleasure then why wouldn't I? It's just a bit of fun at the end of the day. xxx
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Yes but for me and many others attraction is necessary and that starts in the mind ... I find sex mechanical and unfulfilling if it doesn't include the mind, it's without fun and laughter (and for me it's important to enjoy myself as a whole ... my body wouldn't enjoy it all half as much!) |
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I've been to clubs that started segregating age groups with their events and this did breed resentment from some people deemed outside the agreed age range or if one member of a couple was outside said range meaning the couple were not allowed in.
Other sites do allow people to set up and moderate groups as I said earlier but other than a regular forum page set up by someone with a keen eye policing it you're looking elsewhere with the current format of Fab. |
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"We asked why people don't want to meet us and some of the responses was because hubby was out the age range "
I just find it nuts. I've got more about me than some guys a third of my age I'm told. I really don't understand why people limit themselves. I've played with women and couples from 22 up to so old that I'd be embarrassed to ask there age but if willing and able then why not? It's just fun and a physical activity. I feel if attraction comes into its then it can get confusing for some less experienced and those prone to potential daliances. |
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"We asked why people don't want to meet us and some of the responses was because hubby was out the age range
I just find it nuts. I've got more about me than some guys a third of my age I'm told. I really don't understand why people limit themselves. I've played with women and couples from 22 up to so old that I'd be embarrassed to ask there age but if willing and able then why not? It's just fun and a physical activity. I feel if attraction comes into its then it can get confusing for some less experienced and those prone to potential daliances. "
You limit yourself with your preferences why so difficult to understand that others do too? |
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"We asked why people don't want to meet us and some of the responses was because hubby was out the age range
I just find it nuts. I've got more about me than some guys a third of my age I'm told. I really don't understand why people limit themselves. I've played with women and couples from 22 up to so old that I'd be embarrassed to ask there age but if willing and able then why not? It's just fun and a physical activity. I feel if attraction comes into its then it can get confusing for some less experienced and those prone to potential daliances.
You limit yourself with your preferences why so difficult to understand that others do too?"
My preferences are just preferences and they don't tend to limit me. I will play with most ladies so long as they are of legal age and able to consent, they are willing and able to play. Hardly my preferences limiting me just the legal constraints of swinging. |
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"We asked why people don't want to meet us and some of the responses was because hubby was out the age range
I just find it nuts. I've got more about me than some guys a third of my age I'm told. I really don't understand why people limit themselves. I've played with women and couples from 22 up to so old that I'd be embarrassed to ask there age but if willing and able then why not? It's just fun and a physical activity. I feel if attraction comes into its then it can get confusing for some less experienced and those prone to potential daliances.
You limit yourself with your preferences why so difficult to understand that others do too?
My preferences are just preferences and they don't tend to limit me. I will play with most ladies so long as they are of legal age and able to consent, they are willing and able to play. Hardly my preferences limiting me just the legal constraints of swinging. "
By definition your preferences that aren't about age place self imposed limits on you |
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"We asked why people don't want to meet us and some of the responses was because hubby was out the age range
I just find it nuts. I've got more about me than some guys a third of my age I'm told. I really don't understand why people limit themselves. I've played with women and couples from 22 up to so old that I'd be embarrassed to ask there age but if willing and able then why not? It's just fun and a physical activity. I feel if attraction comes into its then it can get confusing for some less experienced and those prone to potential daliances.
You limit yourself with your preferences why so difficult to understand that others do too?
My preferences are just preferences and they don't tend to limit me. I will play with most ladies so long as they are of legal age and able to consent, they are willing and able to play. Hardly my preferences limiting me just the legal constraints of swinging.
By definition your preferences that aren't about age place self imposed limits on you"
A preference is something you prefer it doesn't mean that everything outside your preferred option doesn't occur anyway. It's not all about me and my preferences and I'm not going to refuse a woman pleasure unless there are legal, health or certain physical and/or mental restrictions that mean they are unable to consent or are able to enjoy themselves.
My choice to play straight isn't a preference it's my sexuality. My choice to not play bareback is not a preference its a hard limit.
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"We asked why people don't want to meet us and some of the responses was because hubby was out the age range
I just find it nuts. I've got more about me than some guys a third of my age I'm told. I really don't understand why people limit themselves. I've played with women and couples from 22 up to so old that I'd be embarrassed to ask there age but if willing and able then why not? It's just fun and a physical activity. I feel if attraction comes into its then it can get confusing for some less experienced and those prone to potential daliances.
You limit yourself with your preferences why so difficult to understand that others do too?
My preferences are just preferences and they don't tend to limit me. I will play with most ladies so long as they are of legal age and able to consent, they are willing and able to play. Hardly my preferences limiting me just the legal constraints of swinging.
By definition your preferences that aren't about age place self imposed limits on you
A preference is something you prefer it doesn't mean that everything outside your preferred option doesn't occur anyway. It's not all about me and my preferences and I'm not going to refuse a woman pleasure unless there are legal, health or certain physical and/or mental restrictions that mean they are unable to consent or are able to enjoy themselves.
My choice to play straight isn't a preference it's my sexuality. My choice to not play bareback is not a preference its a hard limit.
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And they are no different to anyone else's "preferences" or "hard limits" about age or anything else ... I think that is what is what is being said! Everyone has them so it's not right to criticise another person's preferences or hard limits as wrong when you have them yourself.
Your "preference" might be to have sex with any lady regardless of needing attraction whilst another's "preference" is needing attraction are no different they are preferences and neither is right or wrong. Just because personally I would be mortified if a guy just shagged me because he could but did not find me attractive (body language and laughter are such good give aways) is no different to you finding it wrong that you are out of my preferred age range! |
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"We asked why people don't want to meet us and some of the responses was because hubby was out the age range
I just find it nuts. I've got more about me than some guys a third of my age I'm told. I really don't understand why people limit themselves. I've played with women and couples from 22 up to so old that I'd be embarrassed to ask there age but if willing and able then why not? It's just fun and a physical activity. I feel if attraction comes into its then it can get confusing for some less experienced and those prone to potential daliances.
You limit yourself with your preferences why so difficult to understand that others do too?
My preferences are just preferences and they don't tend to limit me. I will play with most ladies so long as they are of legal age and able to consent, they are willing and able to play. Hardly my preferences limiting me just the legal constraints of swinging.
By definition your preferences that aren't about age place self imposed limits on you
A preference is something you prefer it doesn't mean that everything outside your preferred option doesn't occur anyway. It's not all about me and my preferences and I'm not going to refuse a woman pleasure unless there are legal, health or certain physical and/or mental restrictions that mean they are unable to consent or are able to enjoy themselves.
My choice to play straight isn't a preference it's my sexuality. My choice to not play bareback is not a preference its a hard limit.
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So your hard limits are ok but mine aren't? |
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"We asked why people don't want to meet us and some of the responses was because hubby was out the age range
I just find it nuts. I've got more about me than some guys a third of my age I'm told. I really don't understand why people limit themselves. I've played with women and couples from 22 up to so old that I'd be embarrassed to ask there age but if willing and able then why not? It's just fun and a physical activity. I feel if attraction comes into its then it can get confusing for some less experienced and those prone to potential daliances.
You limit yourself with your preferences why so difficult to understand that others do too?
My preferences are just preferences and they don't tend to limit me. I will play with most ladies so long as they are of legal age and able to consent, they are willing and able to play. Hardly my preferences limiting me just the legal constraints of swinging.
By definition your preferences that aren't about age place self imposed limits on you
A preference is something you prefer it doesn't mean that everything outside your preferred option doesn't occur anyway. It's not all about me and my preferences and I'm not going to refuse a woman pleasure unless there are legal, health or certain physical and/or mental restrictions that mean they are unable to consent or are able to enjoy themselves.
My choice to play straight isn't a preference it's my sexuality. My choice to not play bareback is not a preference its a hard limit.
So your hard limits are ok but mine aren't? "
I didn't say that at all if you read back. I said I don't understand them. You are entitled to do what you do with whoever you care to try and do it with.
If an age range is a hard limit for you then it's not a preference. There is a difference.
A preference does not infer that anything outside the preferred option is not acceptable. Hard limits are things you won't do under any circumstances.
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"We asked why people don't want to meet us and some of the responses was because hubby was out the age range
I just find it nuts. I've got more about me than some guys a third of my age I'm told. I really don't understand why people limit themselves. I've played with women and couples from 22 up to so old that I'd be embarrassed to ask there age but if willing and able then why not? It's just fun and a physical activity. I feel if attraction comes into its then it can get confusing for some less experienced and those prone to potential daliances.
You limit yourself with your preferences why so difficult to understand that others do too?
My preferences are just preferences and they don't tend to limit me. I will play with most ladies so long as they are of legal age and able to consent, they are willing and able to play. Hardly my preferences limiting me just the legal constraints of swinging.
By definition your preferences that aren't about age place self imposed limits on you
A preference is something you prefer it doesn't mean that everything outside your preferred option doesn't occur anyway. It's not all about me and my preferences and I'm not going to refuse a woman pleasure unless there are legal, health or certain physical and/or mental restrictions that mean they are unable to consent or are able to enjoy themselves.
My choice to play straight isn't a preference it's my sexuality. My choice to not play bareback is not a preference its a hard limit.
So your hard limits are ok but mine aren't?
I didn't say that at all if you read back. I said I don't understand them. You are entitled to do what you do with whoever you care to try and do it with.
If an age range is a hard limit for you then it's not a preference. There is a difference.
A preference does not infer that anything outside the preferred option is not acceptable. Hard limits are things you won't do under any circumstances.
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"Think they would have a chatroom for cpls over 50 "
One it means discrimination against the 20s 30s 40s 60s 70s 80s then you would need all the couples chat rooms. |
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I'm a huge fan of diversity all legal ages, all shapes, sizes, colours, religions are welcome to me.
I don't like segregation of any sort as I find it dilutes our experiences and is fundamentally unhealthy. |
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"Any advice on contacting women as everyone blocked me after first msg or first face pic even if they wink or msh me first "
Display some photos. No photos = no for us
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