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By *ee Ell OP Couple 5 weeks ago
Carmarthenshire |
As there isn't really a place for us to flock together, and the old ND thread doesn't seem to have been carried on - here's a new one.
Chat, advice, rant, support - whatever. But let's keep it respectful and inclusive.
I'm Drew, I'm ASD and pushing for an official diagnosis (what a ballache) and my wife Lou is ADHD.
How are you all doing lately? |
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By *ee Ell OP Couple 5 weeks ago
Carmarthenshire |
"Juno has ASD (diagnosed)
I will say this about the swinger scene, WAY more understanding than regular people seem to be."
We've found that people tend to be a lot more accepting and willing to understand, rather than it being an outright thing. It's really quite nice not having to explain every, little thing and then dreading further questions and struggling to find the right terms so people don't get confused. |
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By *serenJ84Woman 5 weeks ago
North east wales |
Also wondering if the antidepressants are the reason I've never properly orgasmed.
I love sex, I can squirt. Butnive only ever felt that "wave" once.. and god I want more..
Darent risk coming off them tho. Accidently halved one of them feb/March. Nearly wasn't here a couple of times. |
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This very much so... Bit more obvious for me though no doubt. Hands become restless and it's the enjoyment of reading the other person whilst playing I'm thinking about.
Then the worry of not being hard in that moment kicks in and gow they might take it and blah blah blah all the over thinking kicks in |
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"Also wondering if the antidepressants are the reason I've never properly orgasmed.
I love sex, I can squirt. Butnive only ever felt that "wave" once.. and god I want more..
Darent risk coming off them tho. Accidently halved one of them feb/March. Nearly wasn't here a couple of times. "
How long have you been on antidepressants? And do you have any recollection of maturation resulting in orgasm before your treatment? |
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By *hrimper36Couple 5 weeks ago
Central France dept 36 |
A label is just a name that is given to something or someone and I got my label about 9 years ago and my name is Tony and I’m a HIGH FUNCTIONING AUTISTIC but even with my label I’m still me and always will be until the day I die.
Labels help you understand why you feel or act differently to other people but labels can be misused or misunderstood by others.
I’ve only talked openly about my label for the last 18 months because I didn’t want to be judged by others lack of understanding of my label but now I have had the absolute pleasure through my job as a online teacher in helping many people understand why they are different just by talking.
Through sex as well I’ve helped woman again understand their reasons for feeling differently to those around them and two of my woman friends are 68 so it’s never to late to understand the things that we find hard to understand.
You are you so be comfortable in your own skin because you will always be you and everyone else will always be them.
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Good afternoon everyone on the thread.
I put a comment the other day that I have mild autism and ADHD. I just wanted to share a message of support for everyone who has ever been treated differently because of their condition. Even though it’s wrong, the discrimination you can face, you’ve got to rise above it and just be yourself.
I’ve been treated differently by people a lot in life, mostly in social situations because I seem really awkward. I’m a lot better socially now because I cope a lot better with ASD.
I wish everyone who feels like their condition will determine their life: don’t let it. Focus on your strengths, and you can achieve anything.
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By *serenJ84Woman 5 weeks ago
North east wales |
"Also wondering if the antidepressants are the reason I've never properly orgasmed.
I love sex, I can squirt. Butnive only ever felt that "wave" once.. and god I want more..
Darent risk coming off them tho. Accidently halved one of them feb/March. Nearly wasn't here a couple of times.
How long have you been on antidepressants? And do you have any recollection of maturation resulting in orgasm before your treatment?"
Since I was 17 I think.
No memory of anything really.. I remember I was a horny teen. Trying to fuck myself with anything I could find. And enjoys boyfriends very hard cocks through trousers |
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By *iviTV/TS 5 weeks ago
London |
Hey 
Neurospicy person here, have started the ball rolling for an adhd diagnosis but it's a slow ball.
I recall having a therapy session and the person just saying at the end that they had written adhd 5 times and underlined it haha.
Definitely get bored when people go down on me, but going down on others I get hyperfocused ! |
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By *lujiz94Man 5 weeks ago
Bishop's Stortford |
I have asperger's syndrome (although people say I should say autism, since the guy who discovered aspergers was a bad person) I find it really difficult to make social connections with people, especially for relationships. |
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"Hey
Neurospicy person here, have started the ball rolling for an adhd diagnosis but it's a slow ball.
I recall having a therapy session and the person just saying at the end that they had written adhd 5 times and underlined it haha.
Definitely get bored when people go down on me, but going down on others I get hyperfocused !"
Sounds more like your therapist is adhd |
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By *yrateMan 5 weeks ago
Berry pomeroy |
I did the online ADD/ADHD self assessment -got 300 out of 30-didn’t read the instructions properly…..?
So -‘Neuro-spicey’ I like -interesting to find something of a community of us ‘here’ - I’ve been into D/s and BDSM/Fetish for a couple of decades now -which I think aligns with others ‘here’ who refer to ‘reading’ others -a kind of ‘objectivity’ which goes really well with ‘taking control’ ?
Nice to have this dimension to the discussions here.
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Hi, I’m Victor. Spent a very m, very long time feeling purposeless and misdiagnosed with every anxious/depressive condition under the sun until three years, was diagnosed with ADHD Combined Sub-type.
The closure was enough for a while, then I tried mephylphenidate for a year but recently have gone back to being “rogue” as it was messing with my other health priorities.
Hi everyone! You’re valid, you’re worthwhile and just as deserving as anyone else to succeed and fail, because neither really exist except within your own perception of them.
“Instead of trying to change the world, change your idea. If you change your idea of success and failure, everything is great!” - Sadhguru  |
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I'm possibly somewhere on the spectrum, though I've not been formally diagnosed (I applied through my GP for an assessment a while back, but was turned down). I went along to Quest a few times last year (which led me to sign up here), but I haven't been for the last six months as I just found the whole experience very depressing.
Currently wondering if I should try going along again a few times. |
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Hi definately bi polar..though never formally diagnosed.. but honestly I don't want to be.. its enough to know and mostly deal with my highs and lows myself..
But also get help if needed as I discovered far to recently x |
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I have diagnosed ASD but mine is mild really, I am very high functioning, can socialise, date, show empathy and have a lot relying on me in real life for advice and support. It came as a surprise to me when I was diagnosed late 3 years ago at 41 but looking back it all makes sense in many areas. I have some quirks and struggles at times but it is self-contained, many have no idea I have it until I tell them. |
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"Also wondering if the antidepressants are the reason I've never properly orgasmed.
I love sex, I can squirt. Butnive only ever felt that "wave" once.. and god I want more..
Darent risk coming off them tho. Accidently halved one of them feb/March. Nearly wasn't here a couple of times. "
I definitely found the same. I couldn’t orgasm when taking them.
Change of medication helped for me. |
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By *tew008Man 4 weeks ago
edinburgh |
No idea if I’m neurospicy but I’m not really wanting to go through getting any diagnosis. Been told I fit certain conditions. Probably makes sense as I’ve been on here over 10 years and still can’t meet anyone  |
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By *hrimper36Couple 4 weeks ago
Central France dept 36 |
"No idea if I’m neurospicy but I’m not really wanting to go through getting any diagnosis. Been told I fit certain conditions. Probably makes sense as I’ve been on here over 10 years and still can’t meet anyone "
You are you and always will be you with a label or without a label but at least the label can help you understand why maybe at times you feel different to others.
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"Also wondering if the antidepressants are the reason I've never properly orgasmed.
I love sex, I can squirt. Butnive only ever felt that "wave" once.. and god I want more..
Darent risk coming off them tho. Accidently halved one of them feb/March. Nearly wasn't here a couple of times. "
Antidepressants are notorious for affecting sexual responses/performance, not that you're likely to get told that xx |
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I've received a diagnosis of ADHD from occupational health at work but awaiting a clinical diagnosis, and reading through that swingers are more accepting of neurodiverse conditions.
I have over the years had a few "friends" in the lifestyle but I don't feel they truly accepted me, it felt more like they tolerated me so they could be friends with my wife. I would love to find people in the lifestyle I can be my weird self.
(This message has been filtered by my wife Dirtydanish 2.0 As I originally sounded like a dick) |
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Undiagnosed Aspie here, dyscalculia, poss dyspraxia. I couldn't get an official diagnosis when I tried to pursue it years ago as there wasn't the funding at the time and I didn't have the money to go private. It's had to be left as a question mark on my medical notes so to speak. I scored highly or quite highly when I took an autism online test and others have agreed it sounds like I have Aspergers though I don't think that's such a popular term now. It was so frustrating to hear that my request had been turned down (to get diagnosed) as they said that I was coping as an adult and I was high functioning enough..well how would they know without seeing me and if I felt I was coping that well why would I be seeking help?? Xx |
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Officially diagnosed autistic here and I would say I'm a HSP too.
It's great to see a new space has been made for neurospicies to get together. Some of the previous spaces I did take part in creating, but for a while I saw nothing or any updates so assumed people were just busy.
Hey to all you old and new neurospicy faces here. Hope to have some fun interactions with you all. x |
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"Undiagnosed Aspie here, dyscalculia, poss dyspraxia. I couldn't get an official diagnosis when I tried to pursue it years ago as there wasn't the funding at the time and I didn't have the money to go private. It's had to be left as a question mark on my medical notes so to speak. I scored highly or quite highly when I took an autism online test and others have agreed it sounds like I have Aspergers though I don't think that's such a popular term now. It was so frustrating to hear that my request had been turned down (to get diagnosed) as they said that I was coping as an adult and I was high functioning enough..well how would they know without seeing me and if I felt I was coping that well why would I be seeking help?? Xx"
Really sorry to hear they are being awkward little buggers with you. I hope and wish you manage to get that official diagnoses moonshadow.
P.s. awesome name! |
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It is quite interesting to see a high number of neurodivergents (ND) on a site like Fab. Do you think ND people are prone to having a high sex drive? I am aware studies found high prevalence of hypersexuality in ASD males, although the same was not tested in ASD females. I have always had a high sex drive which has NOT finished with age, wonder if it is the ASD or just goor genetics?  |
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Hi I'm J
Adult ADHD with comorbid anxiety and depression disorder diagnosed at 27.
I'm a big advocate for raising awareness about ND I'm my job and currently looking to qualify up as adhd mentor/counsellor.
Read some really good material about adhd and swinging as well as ND and swinging.
Also for those waiting diagnosis I can recommend a great website. |
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"Hi I'm J
Adult ADHD with comorbid anxiety and depression disorder diagnosed at 27.
I'm a big advocate for raising awareness about ND I'm my job and currently looking to qualify up as adhd mentor/counsellor.
Read some really good material about adhd and swinging as well as ND and swinging.
Also for those waiting diagnosis I can recommend a great website."
Feel free to share some of the info about ADHD and swinging, it's got me intrigued that's for sure haha. |
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"It is quite interesting to see a high number of neurodivergents (ND) on a site like Fab. Do you think ND people are prone to having a high sex drive? I am aware studies found high prevalence of hypersexuality in ASD males, although the same was not tested in ASD females. I have always had a high sex drive which has NOT finished with age, wonder if it is the ASD or just goor genetics? "
I don't think it's black and white at all... or in other words, all or nothing. There are some ND's that are asexual out there (some autistics probably are due to some with high tactile sensitivity and other olfactory senses being heightened especially regarding sexual physicality), but also hypersexual autistics like myself. I can't really speak for people with ADHD, etc because I don't function that way, but I'm sure some people in here could share what they've learnt about Neurodivergence and sex. |
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"As there isn't really a place for us to flock together, and the old ND thread doesn't seem to have been carried on - here's a new one.
Chat, advice, rant, support - whatever. But let's keep it respectful and inclusive.
I'm Drew, I'm ASD and pushing for an official diagnosis (what a ballache) and my wife Lou is ADHD.
How are you all doing lately?"
This is an entirely redundant thread. So, why? |
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"I don't think it's black and white at all... or in other words, all or nothing. There are some ND's that are asexual out there (some autistics probably are due to some with high tactile sensitivity and other olfactory senses being heightened especially regarding sexual physicality), but also hypersexual autistics like myself. I can't really speak for people with ADHD, etc because I don't function that way, but I'm sure some people in here could share what they've learnt about Neurodivergence and sex."
Yes I agree on the asexual especially with sensory, perhaps those who are more on the ‘classic autism’ side in particular. My teenage nephew has classic autism and he seems totally oblivious to sexuality which is a relief really as I can imagine it would be quite frustrating and confusing otherwise.
I am wondering if it is high functioning Aspergers the ASD studies were really picking up, Aspies perhaps being a little more likely to be hypersexual |
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"As there isn't really a place for us to flock together, and the old ND thread doesn't seem to have been carried on - here's a new one.
Chat, advice, rant, support - whatever. But let's keep it respectful and inclusive.
I'm Drew, I'm ASD and pushing for an official diagnosis (what a ballache) and my wife Lou is ADHD.
How are you all doing lately?
This is an entirely redundant thread. So, why? "
If you are going to state such a thing it would be good to elaborate? |
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Antidepressants are signal blockers and as such they are not exclusive to the signals they block...the same signals that cause depression are also the neurone transmitters that tell your brain to cum. The medication turns them off making it almost impossible to climax, try long slow build up, it helps |
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By *ee Ell OP Couple 3 weeks ago
Carmarthenshire |
"As there isn't really a place for us to flock together, and the old ND thread doesn't seem to have been carried on - here's a new one.
Chat, advice, rant, support - whatever. But let's keep it respectful and inclusive.
I'm Drew, I'm ASD and pushing for an official diagnosis (what a ballache) and my wife Lou is ADHD.
How are you all doing lately?
This is an entirely redundant thread. So, why? "
Back it up my guy. If you don't feel like doing it publically, free feel to PM. I'm curious why you think an inclusive thread is 'entirely redundant' - as are others. |
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"Yes I agree on the asexual especially with sensory, perhaps those who are more on the ‘classic autism’ side in particular. My teenage nephew has classic autism and he seems totally oblivious to sexuality which is a relief really as I can imagine it would be quite frustrating and confusing otherwise.
I am wondering if it is high functioning Aspergers the ASD studies were really picking up, Aspies perhaps being a little more likely to be hypersexual "
I'm not sure what you mean exactly by "classic autism," but I look at autism as a spectrum of different/mixed traits that relate to the way the brain is wired and expressed in autistic people. But yea, it's probably to do with an overwhelming amount of things to process in the context of sex.
Yea I totally get what you're saying, it can be a really challenging thing to navigate in a neurotypically interactive world.
Possibly. I'm not on the Aspergers area on the spectrum, but I've read that these type of functioning autistic people find it a little easier to navigate life than some other types of functioning autistics, and so would make sense that they'd find it easier to have sexual relations with others. |
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"As there isn't really a place for us to flock together, and the old ND thread doesn't seem to have been carried on - here's a new one.
Chat, advice, rant, support - whatever. But let's keep it respectful and inclusive.
I'm Drew, I'm ASD and pushing for an official diagnosis (what a ballache) and my wife Lou is ADHD.
How are you all doing lately?
This is an entirely redundant thread. So, why? "
If people are posting, it's not redundant. As one of several threads, it's supportive of people not potentially feeling as isolated, as well as educational/informative of the ignorant |
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What conditions are classed as Nuerodivergent? My hubby had a small stroke a couple of years ago and it's affected him profoundly.
He has loads of issues, with lots of letters and takes lots of medication. He has issues with memory, attention span, executive function, cognitive reasoning amongst others.
Although they said he only had a small stroke, it's not in a great part of his head and that's why he's so impacted.
He has recently come off Sertralin, cold turkey, on the advice of his doctor even though we mentioned we didn't think he was supposed to.
His withdrawl symptoms seem horrific but he keeps soldiering on.
I know he was under the Aquired Brain Injury for significantly longer than normal. But there doesn't seem much more support out there for him.
This is not a pity party, it could have been so much worse, just wondering is he Neurodivergent and would he get more supportive he was? Thanks...
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By *ee Ell OP Couple 3 weeks ago
Carmarthenshire |
"What conditions are classed as Nuerodivergent? My hubby had a small stroke a couple of years ago and it's affected him profoundly..."
Neurodivergence (ND) is more of a social term rather than a medical term which conditions etc are gathered under. Technically yes, he would fall under the broad definition; but I don't think there is much in the way of help for ND generally. I haven't had much real world experience with people who've had strokes, but I did a little care work with some and the thing I saw help most was physical rehab. I'm not an expert, I don't claim or suggest what I'm saying is in anyway medically advised.
I'm sure you know there's specialised stroke help out there - like anything, it's having to fight for it. But under the ND umbrella, there is probably emotional, practical support for stroke recoveries. At the very least, you're welcome here for whatever you can gain from it - I hope it helps. |
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Thanks so much. Although he sees a physiotherapist, his physical problems are quite minor.
He has mild left sided weakness, uses a stick due to him having constant pain in his left side which becomes extremely painful after a short distance. He actually has nothing much wrong with his leg. However he sees a Nuerophysiotherapist because his brain is telling him he's in pain.
It's not a made up pain, it's very real but coming from his head and not his leg. The specialist says ots a bit like when amputees can still feel their removed limb. Even though his leg is basically OK his brain is constantly telling him his thigh is in pain.
Other than that he has really nothing physically wrong with him, well from a biomechanics point of view. If you saw him sitting down, you wouldn't know he's had a stroke.
Thanks again for responding. I'm just ranting now, feeling sorry for myself as well as him. Like I said though it could have been so much worse and I have no cause to complain.
Thanks again,
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"Do any of you ND's find it a challenge to navigate message interactions on here?"
Yes, not just on here but on all platforms and also in person as I'm very logical. On here or dating apps I struggle to turn a conversation to something more flirtatious.
I don't say anything in small talk as I had always seen it as pointless conversations or because I'm trying to think of a normal response to give but then the conversation has moved on and I get lost so I then switch off and just try to smile, laugh, look sad when I see others showing these emotions.
Have like a cinema screen in my head that all thoughts and memories get played on but because my mind goes 1000mph they change memory or scenario I'm building in my head like ever second.
One on one though I'm great, but only when I feel the person is actually interested in me otherwise I'm overthinking how to recover. |
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"Do any of you ND's find it a challenge to navigate message interactions on here?"
On here no, normally much better initially via txt..
But currently having huge issues as having huge anxiety attacks triggered using phone and WhatsApp  |
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"Do any of you ND's find it a challenge to navigate message interactions on here?"
I often find it very difficult! I posted this earlier, as a reflection of me, when someone had asked about the site being 'wrong' |
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By *ee Ell OP Couple 3 weeks ago
Carmarthenshire |
" Have like a cinema screen in my head that all thoughts and memories get played on but because my mind goes 1000mph they change memory or scenario I'm building in my head like ever second. "
You know that scene in the 2nd Matrix film, with Neo and the Architect in the room full of TV screens? That's what it's like for me, so I really relate to your cinema screen. |
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"What conditions are classed as Nuerodivergent? My hubby had a small stroke a couple of years ago and it's affected him profoundly.
He has loads of issues, with lots of letters and takes lots of medication. He has issues with memory, attention span, executive function, cognitive reasoning amongst others.
Although they said he only had a small stroke, it's not in a great part of his head and that's why he's so impacted.
He has recently come off Sertralin, cold turkey, on the advice of his doctor even though we mentioned we didn't think he was supposed to.
His withdrawl symptoms seem horrific but he keeps soldiering on.
I know he was under the Aquired Brain Injury for significantly longer than normal. But there doesn't seem much more support out there for him.
This is not a pity party, it could have been so much worse, just wondering is he Neurodivergent and would he get more supportive he was? Thanks...
Mrs x"
He may have ND capacities and many people have never been diagnosed or possibly considered their differences from others. It's also possible that someone who is ND manages to mask more effectively prior to severe brain injuries, which may impair them. The stroke affects you, his loved ones as well as him - I feel for how hard it must be. Unfortunately, neurological health support is vastly under-resourced, so people may get fantastic care in the NHS initial crisis but they may then face a desert, once discharged. Stroke support is at least partially recognised, albeit that many younger sufferers are left isolated, with support often focused on more elderly people. It's largely not good enough though 
I'd recommend looking at local support services, to at least evaluate whether there's anything more locally. I can PM you some ideas overall, if of interest. |
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" Have like a cinema screen in my head that all thoughts and memories get played on but because my mind goes 1000mph they change memory or scenario I'm building in my head like ever second.
You know that scene in the 2nd Matrix film, with Neo and the Architect in the room full of TV screens? That's what it's like for me, so I really relate to your cinema screen."
Do you have it where inside your head you can like look up to the top right and see like a screen but it's a very visual memory playing like a film. Then say if in your mind you looked bottom left there is a different one playing and you can do this in all sections within your mind but they never over lap each other.
That's what it is like for me and if it's something that really has my attention or I'm trying to work something out or whatever it's right in front on the main screen.
I can like visualise dismantling or building something piece by piece like it's right in front of me. The real world sort of goes out of focus and I'm just in my head |
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By *ee Ell OP Couple 3 weeks ago
Carmarthenshire |
All of that, yep. For me it's the individual screens playing the what ifs, should have saids, what am I having for tea tonight, I forget cyrils birthday again, etc etc but when I focus on any one thing, yeah it's the main event. |
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By *VNVNVCouple 3 weeks ago
London |
"Do any of you ND's find it a challenge to navigate message interactions on here?"
Yes. I hate writing in these forums. Makes me long for a big fire that we all just sort of wander up to and start talking |
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By *VNVNVCouple 3 weeks ago
London |
"Also.. any others get bored when people go down on them? "
THIS IS SUCH AN ADHD THING and almost no-one talks about it.
The MOMENT anything seems repetitive or boring, the vibe just... floof. Gone. And then you get stuck in a loop feeling bad that it's gone and then... and then...
fwiw, I have an equally shameful male version I think which is.that almost the instant I climax, my brain goes "Great. That's done. What next?"
I absolutely hate it |
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I'm undiagnosed but autism and ADHD here (aswell as discalulus). Life can be a real struggle for me sometimes and obviously with doughnut being ADHD (being tested) life is even harder but we get through it. |
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"I'm undiagnosed but autism and ADHD here (aswell as discalulus). Life can be a real struggle for me sometimes and obviously with doughnut being ADHD (being tested) life is even harder but we get through it. "
Out of curiosity, if you are undiagnosed, how do you know |
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"I'm undiagnosed but autism and ADHD here (aswell as discalulus). Life can be a real struggle for me sometimes and obviously with doughnut being ADHD (being tested) life is even harder but we get through it.
Out of curiosity, if you are undiagnosed, how do you know "
There are online assessments but they can't say you have or have not, but it can say you show tendancies and to see a doctor for diagnosis. |
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"I'm undiagnosed but autism and ADHD here (aswell as discalulus). Life can be a real struggle for me sometimes and obviously with doughnut being ADHD (being tested) life is even harder but we get through it.
Out of curiosity, if you are undiagnosed, how do you know "
Very fair question, as doughnut just said about the online tests, while it's not a diagnosis, I don't tend to go around informing people (I have mentioned it to my employers as it might explain to them a little while I get so upset if my little routine I have for myself is upset) but I think if you met me, you would probably go "oh yeah, I see it". Hope that helps? Two of my 3 sons also have ASD too, my siblings are also on the spectrum too, so it's something that I am very familiar with x |
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" Have like a cinema screen in my head that all thoughts and memories get played on but because my mind goes 1000mph they change memory or scenario I'm building in my head like ever second.
You know that scene in the 2nd Matrix film, with Neo and the Architect in the room full of TV screens? That's what it's like for me, so I really relate to your cinema screen.
Do you have it where inside your head you can like look up to the top right and see like a screen but it's a very visual memory playing like a film. Then say if in your mind you looked bottom left there is a different one playing and you can do this in all sections within your mind but they never over lap each other.
That's what it is like for me and if it's something that really has my attention or I'm trying to work something out or whatever it's right in front on the main screen.
I can like visualise dismantling or building something piece by piece like it's right in front of me. The real world sort of goes out of focus and I'm just in my head"
Myself and others with ASD I have discussed it with quite often have this sort of thing. I describe it sometimes as 3 radios or TVs playing at once, but it is not constant all day for me thankfully.
I can also have such random incoming thoughts or memories whilst my mind is already busy. Let me give you a real recent example.
I was thinking about something I had to sort out but there was a song annoyingly playing in my head at same time totally unrelated to the other thought - but then a memory bursts in out of no where unrelated to either . Pear drop sweets from the 1980s, not just how they looked but taste and smell, really _ivid. That is how my ASD mind can be |
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Some really interesting responses you fellow ND folks gave to my question. I appreciate all you're voluntary openness to be able to respond to it well. 
For me, I think because a lot of the nuance gets left out of the interactions when texting, anyone could mean anything when sending a message or receiving one. I also find it easier to talk to others through texting, but I prefer in person conversations as I get a much clearer sense of who people are. And as I find navigating interactions similar to walking through a dark forest with a dimly lit light, I just feel like I'm being a bother to people, so in my real day to day life, I just tend to keep myself to myself and go about my day. |
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"What conditions are classed as Nuerodivergent? My hubby had a small stroke a couple of years ago and it's affected him profoundly.
He has loads of issues, with lots of letters and takes lots of medication. He has issues with memory, attention span, executive function, cognitive reasoning amongst others.
Although they said he only had a small stroke, it's not in a great part of his head and that's why he's so impacted.
He has recently come off Sertralin, cold turkey, on the advice of his doctor even though we mentioned we didn't think he was supposed to.
His withdrawl symptoms seem horrific but he keeps soldiering on.
I know he was under the Aquired Brain Injury for significantly longer than normal. But there doesn't seem much more support out there for him.
This is not a pity party, it could have been so much worse, just wondering is he Neurodivergent and would he get more supportive he was? Thanks...
Mrs x
He may have ND capacities and many people have never been diagnosed or possibly considered their differences from others. It's also possible that someone who is ND manages to mask more effectively prior to severe brain injuries, which may impair them. The stroke affects you, his loved ones as well as him - I feel for how hard it must be. Unfortunately, neurological health support is vastly under-resourced, so people may get fantastic care in the NHS initial crisis but they may then face a desert, once discharged. Stroke support is at least partially recognised, albeit that many younger sufferers are left isolated, with support often focused on more elderly people. It's largely not good enough though
I'd recommend looking at local support services, to at least evaluate whether there's anything more locally. I can PM you some ideas overall, if of interest. "
Thanks for your comments. He's doing OK but it looks like he's being left to his own devices now.
Just have to see what develops now. Doesn't look like it's getting worse, it's just not getting any better. This is his new normal now and that's OK,
Mrs x |
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By *ee Ell OP Couple 3 weeks ago
Carmarthenshire |
"Male Empath.
If you are upset, I can feel it even if you are thousands of miles away.
Blessing and a curse.
Would not change it for the world."
Room full of people is literally like fighting a dense wall to get through sometimes? |
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"Male Empath.
If you are upset, I can feel it even if you are thousands of miles away.
Blessing and a curse.
Would not change it for the world."
Yea it can be very difficult dealing with life when being so sensitive to everything. And it's definitely a blessing and a curse that's for sure fella. I just tend to spend a lot of my life in my own company and only interact with people when I sense there is less intensity of stimuli in the moment. |
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I have dyspraxia - had it since I was a kid. I can’t ride a bike or swim and often roll my ankles as I have minimal natural balance…
Does it affect my life…a little as I can’t do things that I wish I could. However I still work for a good firm, still go to football, still cook.
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"For people with ADHD sex can be a dopamine fix and so often have higher sex drives and studies have shown that risky sex is sought "
Interesting, that along with higher levels of hypersexuality in ASD males I guess you can see why lot of ND in swinging scene |
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Because I don't really fully understand the Neurotypical social map that well, I always think and feel I'm just bothering the people that I'm interested in potentially meeting, as I don't really get any of the social nuances. I totally get it's near enough competition with all men on here, but messaging is such a minefield. I've tried many times and haven't really got anywhere. Because people on here are so different, it's almost impossible to gauge what to chat with them about.
Do any of you ND's feel the same and just leave messaging to forums or chatrooms and not direct messages? I feel it's easier to engage and interact through forums and a little bit as well through chatrooms. |
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"Also.. any others get bored when people go down on them?
THIS IS SUCH AN ADHD THING and almost no-one talks about it.
The MOMENT anything seems repetitive or boring, the vibe just... floof. Gone. And then you get stuck in a loop feeling bad that it's gone and then... and then...
fwiw, I have an equally shameful male version I think which is.that almost the instant I climax, my brain goes "Great. That's done. What next?"
I absolutely hate it"
OMFG I (Mr.) assumed there must be other people who experience this but to read it written as if I wrote it..
Thank you for this post (and this whole (totally not redundant) thread)! |
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Hi!
I've always thought I was different. I have two kids with ASD and another with suspected ADHD. I've always thought I'm ADHD, but I had a fellow neurodivergent friend say 'god yes, you are ND.' so that shook me up a bit as I thought I was different but didn't realise it was that apparent.
I've had part of my brain tumour surgically removed (benign) and I think that has made me involuntary take some of my masking away as I've had other things that I've needed to concentrate on and concentration at the moment has been really difficult.
So hi. That's me in a nut shell and I didn't waffle too much. Yey, go me
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"So is the boredom with oral a female ADHD in many people or do ADHD men also get bored receiving oral? "
For me it depends on the person. I have to say the Mr knows exactly what he is doing. With him, I LOVE receiving oral.
Mrs |
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"So is the boredom with oral a female ADHD in many people or do ADHD men also get bored receiving oral? "
It affects me (Mr.) no matter who's giving it to me. Isn't just with oral though. If we're doing any position longer than a few minutes, I start losing the drive and need to switch it up |
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I get uncomfortable often with new people when in receiving and much prefer to give. Think it's either that in the spotlight thing or I'm dying to want to work my magic and hear and feel the results of which does it for me |
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I’m diagnosed ASD + ADHD. I wanted to pop my head into this thread to show support for fellow neurodivergents, but I won’t be hanging around because I’m really struggling with some of the language being used. Lots of it is outdated and/or ableist and I’m finding it super triggering. Hello from me, my inbox is there should anyone need neurospicy support |
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"So is the boredom with oral a female ADHD in many people or do ADHD men also get bored receiving oral?
For me it depends on the person. I have to say the Mr knows exactly what he is doing. With him, I LOVE receiving oral.
Mrs"
Just wondering if this is why I'm not into loads of foreplay and long sessions?! |
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By *as88Man 11 hours ago
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Adhd dyslexia dyspraxia and boy is that a fun combination
The biggest set back is not giving a fuck about small talk or if the subject don't interest me I'm out which means you just can't strike up a conversation you go quiet and nodd whilst thinking did I adjust that left rear strut enough lol
I never thought about the oral I rarely accept Oral as it doesn't do much for me yet I love giving it and seeing a woman squirm so that's a good question |
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